So you didn't get pregnant this month? A response to failing to conceive each month can be demonstrated in couples feeling anger, despair, frustration, grief and even blame. This can then result in a rise in stress levels for one or both of you. In turn the stress may lead to sexual or relationship problems further compounding the problem.

Avoidance of intercourse can be common as it serves to remind couples of the fertility problem. Constant invasions into the relationship, taking regular temperature recordings, providing of sperm samples and post coital tests all add pressure to perform.

Couples can develop arousal problems due to anxieties that their partner only wants to have sex when there is a chance of conception. Then sex turns into what seems like a military operation rather than the fun lovemaking it should be.

Worry and frustration are probably two of the biggest emotions experienced when trying to get pregnant and having problems conceiving. Some of the common sexual problems encountered in these situations are as follows:

Male

? Loss of desire

? Erectile dysfunction

? Premature ejaculation.

Female

? Loss of desire

? Vaginismus

? Anorgansmia (absence of orgasm)

Didn't get pregnant this month? Often fertility problems may be the result of an existing sexual dysfunction, so why spend thousands of pounds on expensive fertility assessments before trying some of the natural remedies first.

There are several ways in which to relax and decrease the stress. Investigate stress management programmes. Remember not all stress is bad. Too little and we don't get things done but too much can prevent us from relaxing.

Learn to relax from many of the relaxation techniques available. Find the most suitable for you, from meditation, hypnosis, deep breathing, and imagery or relaxation courses. Why not try something new - you may even like it.

Engage in regular exercise. Taken in moderation exercise can help reduce stress by working out the frustration or provide some individual reflection time. You will also benefit from the flexibility, strength and stamina that is required during pregnancy and labour when pregnancy does occur.

Before trying any of these techniques check with your doctor first to ensure they are appropriate for you and will not interfere with any existing treatment.

Didn't get pregnant this month? Try to avoid the continued disappointment by learning as much as you possibly can. Find out the right help, specific to your needs to help you get pregnant naturally without side effects, pain or invasive procedures.