At one time or another, all or many of us have been either in love, married, had a significant other or just been in a real good relationship. I, personally have been in all of these situations, some good and some bad. There is probably nothing harder than when it comes to separating or ending these relationships.

No one really wants to go through the pain and suffering of these breakups. The emotional turmoil can be devastating.

I have found that if one has been in a truly committed relationship that has lasted for some time it can most likely work. If you think without emotion that there is a remote chance that you can make it work, then you probably can. You see, when everything is in a state of chaos and your love and you are going at each other's throats, you have to step back.

I call this my twenty four hour "time out" rule. Don't pack your bags and don't say anything that you will regret later. Simply excuse yourself and go for a nice long walk. I guarantee you that this first step will open the sanity doors in your head.

OK, now that you have released a little pent up rage and that beautiful sun and breeze has done it's job, it's time for step two. You must gently confront your love and say you need a little time to get your head on straight. It won't be easy, but you have to take the upper hand. You will look very mature for doing this, believe me.

Tell her or him that you are going to get a motel room for the night and say which one it is. This is extremely important. You don't want your love thinking you are out whoring around. Also, it's great if you make up during the night. There's something about making up in a motel room.

So now it is morning and you have thought everything through. Now is the time to assess what it is you want to do. You are calm because you had a little time to think without getting emotional. Again, if you are really in love, then it is a no brainer. If you have serious doubts, then it is probably time to go each your own way.

I hope this was a helpful article and you may benefit from it today or in the future.