Believe it or not, getting back with an ex girlfriend is easier than you think, but it's going to demand some real exertion on your part, as well as some soul searching about what made things fail.

The first step in getting your girlfriend back is to take control of your life and stop feeling sorry for yourself. One of the biggest slips you can make is to call her constantly and ask for her forgiveness.

The basic fact is that your ex will be a lot more likely to miss you if she thinksyou're not always chasing her. She needs to understand that you have mastery over your life. Feeling pitiful for you will NOT help get her back.

Here are some things you do NOT want to do:

Telephone her or text her all the time

Email her all the time

Drive by her house every day

Plead with her to come back

As An Alternative, focus on what went bad in your relationship and determine what should be altered if you really desire to have her back.

Women don't like men to be clingy so the first thing you need to do is be a little distant. Cease calling her constantly and let her find time to miss the things that got you together in the first place.

Spend time thinking of those early days. What is different now? Did your treatment toward her change? Are you the friend she fell for in the beginning?

After a fair amount of time has gone, it's ok to give her a call just to consider how she's doing. If you began as friends then the friendly relationship is the very thing that might bring you back together. But be sure not to refer to your relationship on the first phone call. Keep fairly coolheaded about it and just permit her to know that you're calling to find out how SHE is doing...not calling because you're desperate to work things out with her.

This starting step can open the door to a completely new relationship. Naturally, it's not the only measure you'll need, but if you genuinely want to get your ex girlfriend back, it's worth it to take each step slowly. If you do things right, she WILL come back to you!