First, let's determine the difference between the two. Oils are for use anywhere on the skin and are generally better used to enhance massages and not so much in lovemaking. Repeatedly applying oil to the sensitive skin of a woman's intimate areas can cause her some problems in the long run. Lubricants are safe for intimate areas for long term use even if used daily. Another disadvantage to oil is that it can cause condoms to break down very quickly, leading to tears.

Oils definitely have some advantages though. They feel incredible to touch. Used to enhance massages, they are the perfect way to make friction work for you instead of against you. Just the right amount of oil will allow your fingers to slide into the most intimate of places.

Lubricants on the other hand tend to dry in the open too quickly to make good products for use with massages. Lubricants are designed to provide long lasting moisture when used as a replacement for what one's body produces or doesn't produce on it's own. Lubricants, used on more intimate skin, provide longer lasting smooth moisture sufficient to keep friction from burning or causing other delicate problems.

Intimate dryness isn't just a woman's problem. The male partner can actually cause tears in the delicate skin around the head of his penis if not sufficiently lubricated. Friction burns can also be extremely uncomfortable if both partners aren't careful about maintaining sufficient lubrication.

Lubricants can be used with condoms, on both the inside and outside, as they do not break down the materials used to make condoms. In addition, lubricants will not harm the delicate skin they will come into contact with.

Lubricants are digestible and sometimes have added ingredients that taste good. They can be used in places that may come into contact with the mouth where oils are not as digestible and are much more difficult to make palatable. Most oils, however, will not cause any damage if they are ingested, they just don't taste good.

Both lubricants and oils can have an added ingredient that causes a heating sensation when any amount of friction is applied. In addition to friction, blowing on the lube or oil will cause the heating sensation. This heating sensation is particularly arousing to the male partner causing an explosive erotic response.

Like many women, I have a collection of lubes and oils that I keep in my sex box under the bed along with my special silver vibrator and a fresh set of batteries. I like to try new products and different flavors as they come out. There is one in particular that I discovered recently. It is a lubricant but comes in the form of a cream instead of a liquid. Like all the others, it is safe for your skin, provides great lubrication, safe for condoms but unlike all the others, it feels really good in the cream form. It stays where you put it and doesn't stain anything should it get away from you and onto the sheets or lingerie.

Consider buying several smaller bottles of various types and flavors until you find the ones you like the best. Don't forget to use the oils for the times you just want to feel special. Oils can be applied for the moisturizing effect and not just limited to intimate times. I have a minty oil that I use regularly on my ankles and feet when they are feeling overworked and tired. Many oils have an aroma that evokes a particular feeling. Occasionally you will run into places that allow you to make your own massage oil scents. This is the prefect chance to experiment a bit with what scents turn you on.

Regardless of what the result is, don't give up after just one try. You will find just the perfect massage oil that makes you crave those late night massages and just the perfect lubricant that makes sex a wonderful experience.