Everybody faces up and down in their marriage. When a marriage is in crisis, couples fight and quarrel, communication became lesser, spouse having affair or even sexless marriage. These are the signs of marriage in trouble. When both could not agree and give in, they choose to divorce. Is there hope to save a marriage when it reaches this stage? Is this the doomed of the marriage?

There are no such thing as doomed marriage unless you have chosen to give up. You still can save your marriage before it starts to get even worse. I have seen many couples successfully stop their divorce and are still happily together until now.

You may thought I must be kidding and you may have already tried methods like these.

- You beg, kneel, cry or tried all kinds of ways to save the marriage

- You have been swearing and promising your spouse “this will be the last time”

- You apologized for everything even you know it is not even your fault, you just want your darling to go back to you.

- You looked or called her umpteen times to save the relationship.

- You tried to convince your wife or husband how much you love them and you simply cannot live without them.

If you have been trying all these methods all the while, please stop now. All these are not going to work and solve the problem. The problem may just come back again. A good marriage need patience, care, trust, understanding and love. I know you are feeling hurt and sad to see your marriage in this kind of unhappy situation. It is something that nobody wish to go through it. However, what your spouse need the most now is to have some space and time to think of the relationship. Do not pester them during this period of time. At the same time, give yourself this chance to think of what went wrong with the relationship. Jot down all possible points that causes the relationship to sour. Was it because of financial issue, your temper or anything that you think can cause the relationship to be like this. If your spouse decided to give you a chance and meet you up, please remember to hold your temper. It is definitely not a time for pointing out each other's bad points. If your discussion turn into a quarrel or fight, it will just worsen the situation. There are still hope to save a marriage if you can do things that really spice up the relationship. All you have to do is to start the relationship all over again. Treat it as both of you just met up with each other.

Marriage is a thing that all of us should cherish as it does not come easy for both person to fall in love and get married. Both of you got married because of love, shouldn't you be trying much more harder to win back their love and trust? I am sure you can rekindle the lost love and make it sparkle again.