A really close friend of mine did just that. In fact, she had her profile on seven sites. She was assuming that being on more online dating sites would increase her chances of finding Mr Right. However, she was always complaining about how she had to reply to too many emails and worse, she would always get confused about which potential date was best and who was who.

At first I admired her for being so dedicated but after a while she was getting stressed out and she admitted to having made some poor choices due to getting so confused and busy keeping up with the replies. Why? Well once you get involved with an online dating site (and I recommend you do), you have to keep your profile up to date. That includes your picture – a must have (sometimes several pictures) with most memberships. You can imagine amending and thinking about the changes and work that goes into changing those details over and over. It depicts a nightmare for me. I'd have issues keeping three online dating sites up to date never mind seven…whew!

Well, here's what happened. She's such a good friend, I decided to do some investigative research (look around a bit on the net). I was pleased to discover that a combination of the latest findings indicate the most successful outcomes from online dating sites come from users who commit to just the one online dating site. They dedicate all their attention to that one online dating site. They also do some research before selecting the online dating site that suits them best. That makes sense…right!

The big plus here is that people who are interested in you know where to find you. If they find you on too many online dating sites, well, that can add a desperation element to your profile. You don't want that!

You can also fish around to see how many people are registered with the online dating site and what kind of quality control they have in place. Don't join the first online dating site that you come to because the chances are you could do better. Good online dating sites are often promoted well and your single friends may well be able to recommend one they like.

Whatever you decide to do, don't be like my friend and join a whole bunch of online dating sites. You'll come unstuck and lose focus (like she did for a while). I showed her what I had learned and she decided to close all of her memberships and start again. Guess what! She is now dating with a clear head and as a result has met some really hot guys.

By the way, this same information applies to guys as well. In fact, most of the people interviewed were in fact guys which shows that the same rule applies to both sexes….I didn't tell her that part - she'd kill me if she knew.

Sticking with one online dating site will save you time, money and trouble. Your chances of finding a partner are actually much higher when you stay with the one online dating site. Ditch all those other memberships now.