If either of you has been married before with small kids; there is a factor that has already or will come into play in the relationship - the EX-Factor. The EX-Factor is the ex-spouse that may be a source of issue in your thoughts of moving forward in spending the rest of your life with this person. There are many horror stories of ex-spouses that seem as though there only ambition in life is to destroy the new relationship. Do not let this happen to you and your mate. Ex-spouses can only cause the amount of issue between you two that is allowed. The less that you or your mate allows an EX to be a negative influence - the less they will be one. I understand that this may be easier said than done, but it is a vital area in the relationship that is best addressed prior to the marriage. Your marriage proposal can be a strong showing to the EX that it is time to move on and let you two have a happy life.If you let your apprehension of the results that may occur, were you to propose, you are doing a great disservice to both you and your mate. You two have the right to be happy and live a life together, so you should not let anyone prevent it from happening. Sometimes, your proposal and wedding will severe the last strings that the EX may be holding that a former relationship can be rekindled. Put out the flames and move on with your life.To deter your proposal due to the EX-Factor is to deny you and your mate happiness. It is not wise to let someone outside your relationship dictate the choices of those within it. Take control of your portion of the relationship and make a lasting impression on your mate with a heartfelt proposal to begin the journey of your lives together.