Some say I am lucky. Others say I have a magic touch. Let me just say, that I have an affinity with the mystery of love. As a rigorous and devoted student to the study of human relationships for several years now, you may as well call me Dr.Love Webb. Have I found the key to successful, happy, fulfilled relationships? Have I found the secret to obtaining the Elixir of Love Longevity? In my quiet moments of observation and personal experimentation, or rather, what some might like to call trial and error(does it ever go right?), I have found common threads woven throughout the tapestry of human relations. It is my wish to bestow these pearls of wisdom upon you, wisdom that is independent of time and transcends all human relationships, love or otherwise.
I have observed one especially important key factor in all relationships. We do not have the power as mortal human beings to read each others' minds. Now, take into account that we all have different filters, perceptions, and beliefs, which begins to tremendously warp the data stream of input in our minds. I have found that we often need the help of others to interpret the meanings of words and actions of individuals, and I have also found that it is an even better idea to seek the interpretation from the origination of that which we are trying to interpret-go to the source, the person themselves.
There are many reasons why we, as human beings do not do this. Why is it that we find it so difficult to talk about how we feel? To ask questions? To talk about bumps in the road? Sometimes we do not go to the source because we feel that a secondary source has given us sufficient information. Have you ever played the game called "Telephone"? This is another way that communication between individuals gets confused and distorted. Eliminate the middle man and you eliminate a great deal of misinterpretation.
Sometimes we do not directly communicate with the individual because of fear. Sometimes we do not directly communicate because in our own little worlds, in the depths of our minds, we come up with meanings and interpretations and decisions without even realizing we are doing so. What if we realized that we are the ones who decide what things mean. What if we brought things out of our subconscious and onto the canvas of our conscious mind, so that we could more consciously choose how we respond to the words and actions of other individuals. I can promise that this one practice of greater consciousness of the power to choose will bring greater clarity and peace in your life.
The secret to happy human relationships is this: sincerely respect and appreciate each and every person and I can promise you have the foundation to build yourself a giant Happy People Palace. With true respect and appreciation, you have the power to overcome all obstacles and disagreements in your relationships. People will know and feel that you seek their best interest, as well as your own, and you can now work together freely to meet each other's needs.
The third and final key to thriving relationships, is integrity. Integrity is the binding power that forges bridges across the tumultuous unknown in the territory of human relationships. It is the sure footsteps on rocky ground and sifting soil. Trust and honesty is the truth behind all words and actions. Without it, all relayed messages via words and actions will be disfigured into a confusing mass. Integrity is the clarity in our communication.
I have now given you the three keys to successful, happy, fulfilled human relationships. There are many ways to miscommunicate, but there is only one common tale in all love relationships that have any lasting value. You have to go to the source in a manner of respect, appreciation, and integrity and you will have the tools you need to meet all challenges that come your way.