Before we can lay out the tips, it is important that we are clear on exactly what an alpha male actually is. Contrary to popular internet belief, they are not the ones who are loudest, rudest and obnoxious men on the block. They don't usually start fights or try to try to intimidate other guys around them. That guy is just an everyday common bully, and next to a real alpha, he comes accross as just insecure and a bit sad.

If you really want to be on the top of your game, I'll give you some tips to help you get there, but you'll have to be willing to leave behind any dating "tricks" you may have tried in the past and look at things from a totally different perspective. Now let's get started.

In animals, there is no confusion about who is the alpha, because the order of the group is entirely determined by genes. The male that is the biggest, strongest and healthiest in the herd will be the alpha. Luckily for all of us, the "human animal" has evolved past this stage, and developed a new criteria for what it means to be an alpha male.

First of all, our society doesn't have one type of alpha that is the single ruler of everything. This is important to realize, because it makes things easier for you. I recently read an article in which the writer used the example of how in some environments, the alpha male would be different depending on what you were measuring by. It could be the president if you measured political power; it could be the head of the military if you measured "muscle" power; or it could be the richest man in the country if you measured financial power.

It is important to understand that you don't have to strive to be "the" alpha male, but rather "an" alpha male. In human society, you don't need to concern yourself too much with the other males around you; you don't have to compete with them to be an alpha, you only need to focus on what you are doing.

The best alpha male tips to attract women all involve building up your confidence. The alpha is completely comfortable in his own skin. He doesn't make excuses for who he is; he doesn't feel the need to prove to anyone how tough he is; and he certainly doesn't need to compete with or intimidate other guys. Why? Simple; he doesn't feel threatened by them.

In human culture, a confident leader doesn't need to fight for attention; he naturally has the attention of others and he doesn't feel insecure if someone else is in the spotlight.

Women are always drawn to the alpha male, not because of the way he looks or his cocky behavior, but because he radiates confidence and control. He makes women feel safe and protected. The guy who beats up other guys in bars doesn't -- women see guys like this as "loose canons," and they doesn't inspire confidence in those around him.

If you start working on your confidence you'll have a big advantage over most other guys out in the dating scene. Feeling confident always comes from within and never from outside of you. The better you feel in your own skin, the closer you are to becoming an alpha male.

Accepting both your strengths and weaknesses equally will lead to this kind of confidence. And here's one the best alpha male tips you can learn: if you adopt confident behavior, you will quickly learn to "feel" confident internally. In other words: "fake it 'til you make it."

So hold your head up high and "model" the behavior of other confident males. This is the easiest way to "become" an alpha yourself.