Jim is a hard working guy who spend long hours working and his partner Lisbeth does not feel that he spend enough time with her. Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the childrens needs and Jim feels that she does not have time for his needs? Can this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? .

First, you must think to yourself if you really want to save the relationship, is it worth it? While almost every relationship can be saved with hard work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work. Because if one of you opt out and does not want to opt back in the chances are that it cannot be done.

Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient or remain in a marriage because of the children. But that is not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a commitment by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.

Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in the relationship. One of the biggest problems in saving a relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself.

For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that causes break ups. In reality, the affair is a symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a situation like that. While most people look at the affair as the problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with the lack of intimacy, you might not be able to keep another affair from starting through the use of guilt, and another problem (for instance pornography) could pop up because you have not dealt with the core issue.

You can save relationships as soon as you start dealing with the core issues rather than the symptoms.

Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own feelings and listening to your partners concerns. When you are talking about your problems you should hold your partners hand as a signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are swirling. When your partner talks about things that hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to improve the relationship.

Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship, create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete steps on your action plan. If you do not spend time together like you used to, plan a date night every week. Take turns coming up with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. And, then do it.

Finally, you have to realize that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward only to take one step back. You will experience both laughter and tears going forward. Be quick to apologize and slow to blame.

Again ask yourself the question: If so, I have described in this article how to save a relationship.