Separating when things get rough can be a good idea. However will this separation help or hinder your marriage?

The answer is if it is done right a separation can help your marriage or relationship. Sometimes we all need to miss our water before the well runs dry. Yes this is a cliche but that is the way our emotions work. We often don't realize how important someone is until we miss them. Believe me absence does make the heart grow fonder. What you once took for granted suddenly you begin to be appreciative of again.Yes, a good separation for a week or two will jar your mind as to why you got together in the first place.

I'm not suggesting that you totally pay no mind to your companion during this time. You want them to know you are alive and well. You can always send them an email or a letter just to keep in touch. You want them to understand that although you aren't in their presence you still care and still want to be with them. You don't want them to feel like you have disposed of them. Always remember to tell them that you care and that you love them.

During this time think about all the things you miss not being in your mates life presently. Throughly consider the big things, as well as, the little thing that you miss. You should either write these things down or record it as a voice memo. If you write it down you should reread and absorb what you wrote often. Meditate on it if you needed. If you make a voice memo you should listen to what you recorded.Do this especially before you retire for the day. By doing this you will be drawn back to your love one with a greater feeling and reverence for them as a person.

Now once you have returned home, take your love one in your arms , look them in the eyes and tell them how much you missed them. It never hurts to bring a little gift for your baby. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant just something that is meaningful to them. It could be something that brings back the memory of when you first meant. You'd be surprised how a little trinket can have so much meaning. For example a matchbook from your favorite restaurant. These are the actions that save marriages and relationships.

Now that you know how it will feel without your companion, be sure to show how much you appreciate them in your life.It is the little things that save a relationship from being in trouble. Take time to show them that you love them daily. Start the moment you awake doing little things though out the day.

If you find your marriage may be in serious trouble there is always help out there for you. If you are ready to change things for the better, even if your mate is not regardless of how bad thing seem. .