We all want a great experience in the bedroom. And the truth is no one taught us the 'How'! It seems we were left to our own devises to work it all out That's so often not a good way to learn any subject let alone love, sex and intimacy. No wonder the divorce rate is so high and no wonder the amount of infidelity is sky high.

The first thing, if you really want to get this area of your life to be the best it can be, is to score yourself! Yes, what's the truth, how good are you in the bedroom? Use a scale from 0 - 10. If you score yourself 0 this means you believe you are totally crap in bed and if you score yourself 10, you believe you are masterful.

So what did you score?

Now here's the thing, being masterful in bed would start by understanding a woman's, and in particular your woman's, needs completely. Because being fantastic in bed is not all about you, it's about a shared experience. Now it goes without saying all men want to be fantastic in bed, so here is a list of do's and don'ts to make it real simple to get you started.

The Don't Evers That Turn Women Off...

Don't try to have sex just because you need it.

Don't plead for or ask permission for sex.

Don't focus only on what you want.

Don't focus on your own orgasm.

Don't have it all over in 3 minutes.

Don't just make it a sexual experience.

Don't just turn over and go to sleep afterwards.

Don't just leave it all to her.

Don't visualise other women.

Don't only do it occasionally.

Do these and you woman will want more...

Do take control of time, place and environment.

Do 'be' romantic, kind, and caring towards her.

Do be the leader, the real man she wants.

Do kiss her - a lot!

Do talk to her; tell her everything you love about her.

Do take your time.

Do focus on her all the time.

Do help her to relax and let go.

Do remain none sexual for best results.

Do synchronise your breathing.

Use the above lists like a check list, tick which of the 'Don't list' you do and which on the 'Do's list' you do, this will give you a real idea of the score you should be giving yourself.

Now utilise the 'Do list' to start to change things around and get better results. And if you get expert in all of the ten Do's and forget all of the 10 Don'ts, it will be akin in bed to 'lighting the touch paper and standing back to watch the fireworks'....