You'll want to be a picky about your divorce lawyer as you were about your doctor. Find someone who clicks with your personality and with your legal requirements. Simply being an attorney, doesn't mean he or she is the right lawyer for you. When you're looking for a perfect match between you and your attorney, here are some tips to remember:

1. Check out the lawyer's personality.

If the attorney is too vehement or impatient, it might not bode well for you or do you too much good. A divorce is stressful; you'll want a lawyer that stays calm so that he or she can help keep you calm. Additionally, you'll want to find a lawyer who is willing to take the time to answer your questions and who understands what is important to you. For example, if the most important part of the divorce to you is getting a reasonable custody settlement, you'll want to avoid the lawyer that keeps returning to financial settlements in your discussions.

2. Don't underestimate the power of technology.

An option for you to complete yourself is one of the software programs out there. You can go through the division of your property and the support for your kids more efficiently and with less emotion. Furthermore, sometimes it's easier to keep in touch via email when you both are busy (as long as your lawyer isn't opposed to phone calls and face-to-face meetings when you need more detailed explanations.)

3. You need someone who has the courage unfolded to tell you the straight truth.

Your lawyer should be willing to be honest with you as well as understand divorce laws. His knowledge about divorce law allows him to be honest about what you might expect as an outcome. If your request will likely end up unfavorably to you, your lawyer should be honest. Likewise, you'll be stressed during the divorce. Your lawyer is the one who should remind you what is important and what should and shouldn't be pursued.

4. Your attorney must understand all of the complexness around divorcing.

Divorce is not just a legal issue. Many factors are included: kids, property settlement, finances, fiery emotions and the law - if you can think of it, it's there inside the divorce. If your lawyer spends most of his or time talking about winning or losing the legal battle, he or she may have lost sight of everything else that is affecting you. You need an expert who truly understands how to support you as you go through the legalities of divorcing and let you know your options.

5. Find someone you can afford.

You need to be up front with your attorney if you are worried about paying his fees so that some equitable arrangement can be made. You might be able to change from an hourly fee to a flat rate program that clearly lays out what is involved.

Finding a lawyer is not as simple as calling the first person you find in the yellow pages. Don't be afraid to call several divorce lawyers and go on to discuss with them your expectations and specific situation before you make your final decision. It's also helpful to ask the people you know for recommendations.