It's no secret that the many recent advances in technology have made it much easier to keep track of what people are doing on a daily basis, whether they want us to or not. But, this also allows us to protect ourselves in the unfortunate event our spouse is being unfaithful and having an affair especially when it comes to cell phones and text messages.

While text messages may be a quick and convenient way of communicating with someone, much like "talking" with someone over the internet, it also allows us to lose some of our inhibitions as the interactions aren't actually taking place face to face. Texting may also allows to be more open and honest, but on the other side of the coin, it also allows some people to act inappropriately.

Asking the Phone Company for Help

Depending on the cell phone's carrier, it may be possible to contact the company and ask if there's any chance of retrieving an "accidentally" deleted text message. Many companies say that text messages are stored for 24 or 48 hours and then deleted, making them irretrievable, and if your name isn't on the phone bill, you may have to take legal action to access this information if by chance it is available.

Tell a "White" Lie

While lying certainly isn't something we'd want to make a habit of, in this case, it can be justified as if your spouse is in fact cheating on you, then they've committed a far worse sin and you are merely trying to protect your own interests as they obviously haven't been thinking of them too much lately.

The white lie in question in this case would be alluding to the fact that you saw a questionable text message on your spouse's cell phone, when in fact, you've seen nothing at all. A very important warning must follow this particular way of catching a cheating spouse as if you aren't already certain that they are indeed cheating, you're going to not only look rather foolish, but you'll also be damaging your relationship and be telling your spouse outright that you have absolutely no trust in them.

Using Technology

A relatively new device has come on the market, unknown to most people which is fortunate for those of us who may have been cheated on, that allows you to retrieve all deleted information from a cell phone. They're called SIM card readers or SIM card data recovery recorders and they work relatively simply and are also easy to use.

The SIM card within the cell phone is usually located under the battery, which is accessibly by removing the back cover of the phone. The card is inserted into the reader which is then plugged into a computer's USB port and accompanying software tells you what to do with simple onscreen instructions. Detailed reports provide data such as any SMS (short message service) text messages on the phone, whether they've been deleted or not, as well as phone numbers both called and received.

While catching your cheating spouse with text messages may be difficult, it certainly isn't impossible, but hopefully, the only thing you'll ever find is that you need to take a closer look at your own self as well as your relationship.