If you look deep into it on a scientific level, we are not the same person we were a few days ago, science tells us that our cells die each and every day, it recycles itself! With that scientific fact alone, can you see why it is so silly to hold on to a "hurt", or not to forgive?

Can you see how ridiculous it is! Yet there are people who will hold grudges till their dying day! And when you look at it, you have to ask yourself "for what"

I know this feeling first hand, my grand mother and I never got along for years we avoided each other- yet on her dying day the one person she asked to see before she died was me!

My point is, don't wait till your dying day to love! To forgive! Do it now! You cannot lose!

Yes the person cheated on you, lied to you! But did you ever listen to them and hear their side of the story? Your ego says "there is no story- what he or she did is bad and cannot be forgiven"

And it gives you all the reasons to hate and hate! Soon you will come to realize that your ego was wrong and that you got rid of the one thing in your life that was good for you!

The past is the past! What was done was done! You can't change it -so do not dwell on it! Focus on what you want for the future!

A liar is not always a lair and a cheater is not always a cheater. If you say it is! Guess what "it is" what you think is what you get! The Ego-your ego will make sure you are right!

So what is the answer? Love is the answer. Whatever that person did to you love them! Yes it might be hard and the ego will give you a billion reasons not too! But love them anyways and watch how easy it all becomes!

Imagine if you decided to love that person instead, instead of the hate and the pain, what if you choose to love them! Seems impossible? It is not-all it is just a decision!

Truth is your true self wants that! But your ego stops it! It says

"They will hurt you again"

"You hate them"

"They can't be trusted" this is the ego at play! And the funny thing is, you create your own world, if you believe someone will hurt you-they will! If you believe someone will cheat on you again and again -they will!

Subconsciously, you are telling them too!

What does this all mean? It means whenever you have a hurt or a pain, or whenever you can't forgive, always remembers it is your ego talking and not your true self! Knowing that fact- Make sure you forgive those who hurt you- not only for them but for you! The more love you give the more you will destroy your ego and the more good things will come to you!

It takes far less effort to love than to hate and far less energy to hold a grudge than to forgive!

Sometimes you might be in a scenario or a situation, where you love someone so much and yet you made a grave mistake and the two of you are torn apart, you want to make things right, but they wont allow you too, Their ego has categorized you as an enemy...so what do you do?

If they can't forgive -you must forgive and forget and let go! Love them if they hate you!

When you let go of the situation, the thoughts, the pain and feelings associated with it, you become free and the other person could very well be drawn to you!

Understand that the same joy you feel when you are in love is love of the Self for the Self. On our human level of reality, which exists only in our minds, we are happy when we are in love. Our love for another makes us feel happy.

When another loves us that only provides ego gratification, feeling approved of, which is a feeling of satisfaction, but not happiness.

If you looked deep into it, you would find that all the love and joy you felt came when you gave love to the other; it was never because the other person gave you love! Knowing this, you realize that you are the "source of the love" and not the other

When we have loved often enough, and fully enough, we understand that the existence of the other is not important to sustaining our love. A lamppost could serve the same purpose if we allowed it; eventually we need no external trigger at all. We realize that love is our experience.

Later, we realize that love is our fundamental nature, which is why we never find it outside ourselves.

You will never find love outside of yourself and the saying "you can't love another unless you love yourself rings true"

It is a quality of the Absolute, which we really are. This love is always with us, even when we are unaware of it. This true love is a portal to Consciousness.

Someone once said human love, centered on love for another, is prostitution compared to Divine love.

When the mind, which creates every THING, is quiet, we become happy, complete, and joyous love.

You are not who you think you are. You are not your feelings. All that you believe or perceive yourself is an illusion. Simply RELEASE and find out, that what you think is simply a feeling.

So here is how you do it:

Think of the person who hurt you or you hate and simply say yes to any feelings that come up

That is it, say "yes"

If you say "I hate them" say "yes" to it! If you hear your inner voice says

"It is all bull shit" say "yes" to it- it might be bullshit but listen first and your egoless self will make the right decision!

Yes is powerful because "yes" means acceptance, it means unconditional love!

Keep saying yes to the person, to the feelings and thoughts attached to the person, you will know when you are done when you see the person smile at you in your minds eye!

Now try to be with the person, call them up! Go out for a coffer and say "yes" to any ego related feelings that come up as you talk!

You will soon realize that with the ego out of the way! You are happy and you can communicate better!

Your are full of love and not hate! Use this simple exercise and your life will change and remember "never hate-just say "yes" and love unconditionally-you will never lose"

This article is dedicated to Christina Hayden! A good kind person that retainsa special place in my heart!