The first thing is to understand the psychology of relationship dynamics. You may think that people are basically the same. This is far from true. We are like computers; we come from the factory with many combination of hardware & software. Your hardware is akin to your temperament and communication mode. Your software is what you acquire during your life experiences. It detiemes you values beliefs & values lifestyle and interests.

Detain combination of hardware and software in different people will connect better than others. It is important to know what your temperament is and the type of temperament that is best suited for you and how to attract that person.

Communication Mode is something that can make or break a couple's love for each other. We see 1000'.s couples a years at our Life Management Center. Most of them have problems in their relationship because they are on different communication channel. We have 4 channels that we can experience and give love out on and in many troubled relationships people are on differing channels. When you write your ad you want to attract the type of person who is on the same channel or channels you are on.

However with temperament it is important to attract someone who will blend with you. This usually means someone different than your own temperament. Studies have shown that your opposite or inverse make good life long partners. There are exception to this rule but generally you would be wise to follow it.

The other areas that are important to understand are Values and Lifestyle interests. We can break down values into two sections. One is societal values wherein there are 6 grouping and 2 Personal Values which include ends values which are usually vague emotional states we try to achieve (i.e. love happiness, wealth, respect etc.,) and means values which are life style interest for example: Playing tennis, family, camping social activates, dancing, reading etc.

Ideally you want to end up with someone who has similar Lifestyle/Societal values and compatible personal and interest values.

So let's quickly review We want to meet someone who is on the same communication channels we are on and who have opposite or inverse temperament and personality, characteristics and who have similar and compatible lifestyles, personal and societal values. We then have to write our ad that will cause a trigger response in someone who have the unique mixed of qualities that will be perfect for you.