This new way of celebrating the holidays can be difficult for the children in making grown up decision of who they want to spend time with.
Creating new tradition
It can be difficult for the newly formed parents to decide who to go to for the holidays because you may feel that who ever you pick to go to as an example with the in-laws the other may feel bad or left out.
Creating a new tradition can be the way to go to bring newness and fun for you and your children and to be open to this new way of behaving.
Children have a hard time in accepting change when comes to leaving one parent behind when they are accustom to having their traditions at Christmas.
No guilt
Children in a blended may have a hard time accepting the new person into their family because of the fear of liking the new person as much or close to their feeling for their parent.
Children may feel that they are doing something wrong or that they are forgetting their parents' traditions and may wish to continue this again.
Children may feel guilty and do not want to be in a place that they have to choose one parent and their partner over the other parent.
Making a decision which parent is going to have the children and for what occasion can either be, easy or difficult depending on the feeling of the parents and children that need to work it out.
Doing things together
Your children wants to be reassured that they are not leaving out another parent and that they are allow enjoying their time with the other parent and not feeling guilty and that is where the other parent responsibility is to their children in dealing with the transition.
Listening
To help children to make a better transition from moving from one family they may feel that they are abandoning one to go to another is giving them a chance to express their feeling without attempting to cover it up or justify it.
So before expressing your feeling as an adult it is a good thing to listen to your children before you make your decision.
One parent may be alone
If one parent is left alone and the children knows about it the other parent has a responsibility to reassure the children that the one that is left alone will be fine with out them so no guilt is form.
Making a new transition
Making a new step for a parent is not always easy to be welcome in the new family and also difficult for the children involve.
Each person that you may come across may have their own ideas of whom or what you should or should not do at a time like this and your responsibility is to first breathe and know that you are not the first to go through this situation or the last.
To know sometimes people in general have difficult in accepting change because it ask of them to adjust and they may not know you well and that may make them uncomfortable.
The new family you are going into wants to know that you will be a better person and will enrich their family, and that they can trust you to do the right thing by the children although they may not be your own.
Conclusion : Blended families during the time of the holiday can be a time of renewal and fun depending on the adults and their openness to change.
