I have found after doing readings for people for the last twenty years, the one thing that always comes up in the readings from my spirit guides to relay to the person having the reading is: you already have the answer. I have no "special gift" and I do not proclaim to be 98% accurate. I am not God. God is inside of me and inside everyone else too. And so that leads me back to you already have the answer inside of you. Where the problem comes in is how to be able to hear the answer. Is that answer coming from God or is that what God is saying to me and so I really don't know and this is what leads people to go for a reading, no matter what the issue is.

Now through the years I have met people who are more in tuned than others, but it doesn't make anyone any better than or worse than anyone else when trying to find the answers within yourself. And often times the people who are in tuned do not even know it. We live ours lives projecting outward and we really have no clue of how to go within and develop a sense of spirit for ourselves. People may find they are committed to trying to hear the voice within and meditate and keep meditating and when they arrive at the point of hearing the voice within it may be for a minute and it continues to be a minute or a short time. They can not seem to get to that point or if they do to get past that point or past abstract colors, figures or scenes, any number of things come in to distort or distract them and the whole thing turns into frustration for them.

At this point they may seek out a psychic to receive the answers to their questions. I believe that everyone has the ability to meditate which will help them to receive the answers they are looking for in their life.

The reason for all of us not being able to receive answers is because of resistance. You know the old saying: "be careful for what you wish for it may come true" really fits in this situation. We are so use to going outward for everything. And even when we know the answers require going within and we know the steps to take to go within we still don't. Now that is what I call simply being human.

The main thread my spirit guides always focus on at some point in a person's reading is "loving yourself" and the steps to take to love yourself. For some it may seem easy and for others they may not be sure if their activities are loving themselves. Often times I find that if any kind of sports or shopping is on a person's list for loving themselves, my spirit guides always ask the question: Why? My spirit guides feel that shopping or sports is a distraction and can lead to guilt in whatever area that person wants to go in. They (spirit guides) define loving yourself as doing anything that relaxes you with no guilt or any kind of negative impression made on you after you are done with the activity. It is in "doing" the activity where you are going to be relaxed and your mind is going to be free so that loving thoughts can come through and direct you in the direction you want to go. Often times we will do an activity and it will relax us but we don't feel that we got an answer to our question(s). The key to all this is not to be resistant to letting go and relaxing and let or allow love to come in, in any form, for you to have the answer in the way that you would understand.

So the first step in loving yourself is to make a list of all the things you enjoy doing that relaxes you totally. Now please understand that you may have to do the activity several or more times to get in a relaxed state to hear your inner voice. Do not give up and keep taking time out of your schedule to do what is relaxing for you. The key here is to: "keep doing it".

When you find an activity that is truly relaxing for you then you want to keep doing that. The second step is once you are relaxed then start being aware of your thoughts and I guarantee you they are going to be more filled with loving thoughts versus busy thoughts or negative thoughts. Just keep doing it! The resistance will come up but you will learn that as long as you keep doing it, it will get better and better for you. And soon you will be having loving thoughts and from the loving thoughts, during that time of loving yourself you will begin to receive answers and directions for your life. It is at this point where beginning a meditation regiment can and will be a much easier task because you now know what it feels like to be relaxed. The next step after that is to begin to open your mind while in a quiet state to receive love messages more directly.

In learning how to love yourself it is not only important to receive your own answers but it also helps with anything in your life that is difficult for you, but the fact is you have to do the work which is a part of life. A good example of that is working a job you don't like. I have through the years worked jobs I did not necessarily care for and something that helped me with that was music. The first thing I would do after work is blast my music and if I felt like it I would dance or sing along for the first hour or so until I felt relaxed enough to enjoy the evening, as opposed to complaining all night long about the job and then dreading going back to work the next day to do it all over again. Or I'd have dinner with a friend after work or go to a movie. Anything to do something I enjoyed and NOT dwell on the negatives in my job. It worked and I was sent a job after that one that I absolutely loved. So with some patience, training and discipline you can lead yourself to a lot more happiness and love in your own life!