Exactly what issues need to be addressed? Do you have one specific issue in mind? Typically many of us have a real and important need to become clear about the things we are trying to achieve. This concerns everything without exception, from what is useful to feelings that are uncomfortable. The problem is to know how to reach a clear mind and then to uncover the answers to questions. The 7 Words System offers a unpretentious intuitive logic that allows us to get hold of a much better knowledge of what it is that we are trying to find. It begins with No. We need firstly to mark out precisely what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Definition of conflict: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others? Are you ready to make changes in your situation and way of doing things? The next stage relates to the word Hello. We will certainly need to open up to new ways to see everything if we expect to expand our variety of answers to the many difficulties that often arise for us. You agree? To get something fresh we will need to enlarge our sphere of awareness and look where we have not formerly looked earlier. Original thoughts, new friends, new places and new things are clearly parts of giving awareness to something we have not formerly been subjected to. This entails that we switch old for new, that can tender something in equitable return for what are trying to acquire for ourselves.

Definition of conflict: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

Always there is good to be found in the qualities of a person. How well are you expressing your appreciation? Between all existing opportunities, some are more appealing than others and we give them a higher value, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Over and over again, we overlook the importance of what we have, slide unconsciously into ingratitude and are likely to assume what should not be assumed. It's more than just politeness to let somebody see our appreciation for things we esteem; it has a significant effect in helping us to succeed in attaining our targets. Psychologically we are attracted to what we pronounce appreciation for, and yet it's equally valid to say that we can to attract them to us too. We build up our magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we easily bring things to us.

Definition of conflict: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Whichever way you go, from now on life has changed and will be forever different. The word Goodbye is the fourth of the 7 primary words and has to do with a procedure having 4 clearly defined phases. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a particular stage of development, so could be distinguished in basic terms as utter exclusion of a viable course of action that previously we had been going towards and in future will not go in for. It is a turning point in our choice of would-be outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it means that there has been a degree of involvement already, which now needs to end compared to No's rebuttal in the first place. Proper decisions cut the past away completely and that penetration forms an opening of a doorway that otherwise does not materialize.

Definition of conflict: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation. The future develops according to the customs of the past unless we take control of it and shape it to our aspirations. To do this compels us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, clear-cut and optimistic—and converted into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather dreamlike and the second is much more focused and deliberate. For a dream to become real there must be support. . Nothing can be made possible without earning the help of other people - this takes competence, most likely persuasion, even encouragement. It is not always essential to tender something such as money or money's worth

How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful resolution?

Definition of conflict: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good damage done whenever we've been inconsiderate or oblivious to the circumstances of another. The best plan is to make sure we preclude the need to say it by being thoughtful earlier. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset could easily be inclined to act against us and reduce our likelihood of success, so it is obviously more shrewd to take into account others as well as ourselves. This question is all to do with being responsible, having a degree of concern for anyone we've upset and making amends when we've done wrong. Then and only then will it ever be possible to prevent or patch up resentment and leave go of the permanent nastiness that otherwise would increase and continually irritate.

Definition of conflict: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every path is workable, that's the whole point of our being creative individuals...are you truly trying to find a way that works for all concerned? The final stage of our 7 Words technique is to do with acceptance; there are occasions when we simply have to consent to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be good wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in fact we can't. We always need to abide what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The best habit is to trust that everything in the long run turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when seen in the perspective of the longer term. Unquestionably it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! In spite of that wait a bit and you'll see that the serendipitous happenings, the surprises and disenchantments are actually the best bits masked as hardships.