It happens all the time, a couple calls it quits, gets divorced and is determined to go their own ways. After a time the couple may come back together and find that spark that brought them together the first time around, opening up a new and exciting relationship. If you are in a position where you want to begin dating your ex-spouse you may be wondering how you proceed. Where do you go from here.

The important thing to think about is why you broke up in the first place. Many relationships end because of abuse, so if this is why this relationship ended you need to be cautious. If the person was abusive toward you, you need to remember that this can be a difficult cycle to break.

Are you willing to repeat the past? Has the person done any work on themselves so that you can reasonably believe that they will not become abusive again in the future. Really stop to think about this, and any reasons for the failure of the relationship. This can be a great guide when considering whether or not you should try it again.

You should take it slow. Don't feel rushed to get back into a relationship with the person. Instead, take time to court one another as though you have never been in a relationship with them before. Try doing new things together that you didn't do before, take delight in the small things such as holding hands, kissing, etc. Remember that you need to build up to a relationship instead of simply falling back into the relationship that already failed.

Remember that you are able to back out any time that you would like to. Just because this is someone who you have been with in the past doesn't mean you need to be with them in the future. If you feel as though things are not going has you had hoped or that you aren't getting what you need from the relationship, get out! You have already spent a lot of time on the relationship, there is no reason to prolong the inevitable.

If you want the relationship to last you need to make sure that you build it on trust and honesty this time around. This is important because you want this to be a new beginning instead of a continuation of an old relationship.

Make sure that you are open and honest and that you go into the relationship with your eyes wide open. A relationship with an ex can be a beautiful thing, so long as you don't fall into old patterns of behavior. Stay true to yourself and your needs, and perhaps you just can make it work this time around!