Let's say that you've had a big fight, and now your ex is gone forever?unless you can make up after break up. It might seem like you are both too angry or discouraged to pull it off now, but lots of couples get back together after a break up, and so can you. You just need to use these five simple steps to do it.

Space is an essential ingredient for making up after breaking up. You both need time to cool off and space from each other. This will allow you both to get proper perspective on what happened. Make it a goal to go seven days without contacting your ex ? this includes email, phone calls, text messaging, instant messaging, or in-person meetings. This week-long break from each other might surprise you. Many couples, after taking a seven-day breather, find that their feelings toward each other are warm again and they get back together. Sometimes space is all you need to work through your differences.

After you've both had time apart, it's time to make the call or pay a visit to your ex. Use this opportunity to assess the situation from your ex's point of view. Make it clear by your friendly tone of voice that you still care and want to make up. Be sensitive and ask your ex about their life before you jump right in to trying to get back together. Letting your ex sense that you care about them as a person, even if you aren't a couple anymore, will soften their heart.

Once you've made some small talk and established the tone of your conversation, make a brief statement about how you feel. Mentioning how good it feels to talk to your ex again or how you've really missed watching movies with them is a good, concrete way to say how you feel. Make it brief and don't smother them with affection, but be clear that you'd like to have them back in your life again.

The next important part of the conversation is sincerely apologizing for your part in anything that went wrong in the relationship. Being willing to be the first one to say ?I'm sorry,? even if you weren't the only one at fault, is essential to make up after break up. Once you apologize, don't be surprised if your ex immediately does the same.

Last of all; remember not to let your first conversation go on for too long. Contacting each other and having a short and sincere conversation is enough for now. End things on a positive note and let your ex know you'll be in touch again in a few days. Let them think over what you've said.

This 5-step make up after break up program is not guaranteed to fix any relationship, but it is the best way there is to win back your ex and get them back in your life again. Remember to give each other space, initiate a friendly conversation, state your feelings, apologize, and keep your first conversation short.