When she got married she was a size 2. After their daughter was born she was a size 14. Two years later instead of losing weight she was a size 18. Instead of hitting the gym or losing the "baby fat" she hit post partum depression and threw in the towels resolving to the fact that she was just big and "he better loves me for who I am on the inside rather than the outside." He did love her for the person she was, but his looks on her enormously large size 18 body and 40-DD chest and a g-string that turned into booty-floss that got buried under all those "loafs of bread" did not make her feel the sexiest or most attractive woman in the world. But she didn't care anymore

Perhaps you can relate?

What is a woman to do when she feels trapped in a body that is no fun, in addition to dealing with a depression that you can't seem to explain since giving birth to a child should be one of the most exiting undertakings of anyone's life? Even the shoes on your rack consist mainly of slip-ons, because you've grown tired of getting out of breath when tying your shoes.

Reluctantly you have at least attempted to go back to the gym, but your baby now keeps you busy full time. So you resort to diets and everyone of them fails, causing you to get even more depressed. The list of excuses of why you can't seem to get that department of your life back on track seem endless.

The strain on your marriage grows heavier and thoughts of leaving this marriage start crossing your mind. What would happen to you if you left?

You realize that life goes on, whether you're thin or fat.

Rather than leaving your marriage in the hopes for peace and being left alone, here are 5 steps you can take that can assist you in regaining great health and igniting that new flame into your relationship:

1.Stop all excuses. Instead of focusing on all the excuses that prevent you from losing weight, start focusing on all the good things that come to you from having a sexy figure. Trust that since you have had a slim figure in the past, you will get there again in the near future. No one is asking you to lose all the weight by next week, just get started and stay consistent.

2.Know that this is not about him, this is all about you. You are in this together, yes, but losing the weight for him is superficial and will only make your weight loss temporary. You must want to lose the weight for you and you only. You are the one feeling unhealthy or unattractive and you want to feel great about yourself. Having your partner be attracted to you once again is an added bonus and benefit and can serve as a motivator, but it should not be the main reason.

3.Don't be rebellious and do what I did and put your hands on your hips with a bad attitude: "He ought to love me for me not for what I look like." I'm sure he loves you no matter what, but you also must learn that most men are stimulated by visuals (and are equally as turned off by them). That is part of the biological make-up and no matter how much you want to rebel against it, you're only hurting yourself and him as well. Accept Mother Nature for what she has created and know that she works perfectly at all times, either with you or against you, the choice is yours.