Marriage is primarily an economic arrangement, an insurance pact. It differs from the ordinary life insurance agreement only in that it is more binding, more exacting. Its returns are insignificantly small compared with the investments. Moreover, the marriage insurance condemns her to life-long dependency, to parasitism, to complete uselessness, individual as well as social. Man, too, pays his toll, but as his sphere is wider, marriage does not limit him as much as woman. He feels his chains more in an economic sense.

My husband and I not have been married a very long time like other people. Along the way, we discovered some common concepts or keys that across marriages we have known to be successful - think, 30, 40, 50 years. Let me allow sharing them with you.

My husband and I may not have been married as long as others but, along the way, we discovered that there are some common concepts that cut across marriages we have known to be successful-think of it about 30's,40's or 50's. The relationship has to be based on mutual respect, common purpose, and trust. Both parties need to identify what they want out of life and then continue that dialogue throughout their marriage. It doesn't take that much time, but it does take focus, and patience.

1.Whole individuals make whole marriages. First and foremost, get to know yourself first and work out becoming a whole, a happy person. Making compromises and sacrifices is one of the keys to happy marriages. While much communication in strong families is spontaneous - "We talk while we do chores together" or "We talk anytime we're together" - some strong families plan a certain time each day for the entire family to be together to talk.

Happy individuals and learn from them it would help you to consult the most mature. You can discover that growth is continuous that they've picked some important things along the way that make them what they really are. So it can be the best one can do is approximate them in internally and be content.

Knowing yourself, is a hard to accomplish task; to look deeply in the mirror and see the person you have become through your life choices. Most of us are conscious of the physical aspects of a person i.e. the exterior form. Every person has a different soul and temperament. The physical aspects of people may look alike, but there are very few with whom our souls meet. Expose yourself to ideas and experiences that will help you evolve, develop your self-esteem.

Love as a decision. It is a statement that reminds couples to love the person, not the behavior. Many people do not see why a person would have to make the decision to love since they made that decision many years ago when they said yes to one another on their wedding day. It is normal in married life to have periods of romance and disillusionment. Both can attract men and women. LOVE IS a daily decision, a choice to Love or not to Love.

Love is a doing word. Feeling it and showing it are two different things. It requires commitment. It sometimes hurts and doesn't feel so good. But what does the world know of the kind of love that the Bible defines anyway? It's in the First Letter to the Corinthians, Chapter 13.

But what does the world know of the kind of love that the Bible defines anyway? Should it surprise me that the dictionary definition is so far removed from what Paul says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7? I wonder if older dictionaries ever acknowledged the doing side of love? Is this dangerous limitation of the English concept of love a modern phenomenon? It requires commitment. It's about faithfulness.

3.Communication. Of course, that is the first thing to do. Both can attract men and women. The first important thing to remember about communication in marriage is to consistently use "I" statements as opposed to starting out a sentence with the word "You." While this may sounds like a simple change to make that might not make a whole lot of difference, as any therapist knows, "You" statements tend to sounds accusatory, causing the other spouse to feel defensive.

3.Communication. Of course, that is the first thing to do. People have a misconception of what communication is. They think that's simply talking. Communicate with your spouse. Regular dialogue, quick conversations during the day or debriefing at night will keep the lines of communication open. Verbalize your differences. You and your partner will not always get along. There will be deviations because it is a natural happening for all couples

4.It's not me, it's WE. Once they enter into a relationship, they are no longer just two individuals but one. Life and personality of its own and must be treated. In marriage conflict is often it may cause by a clashed of individuals.

Even if your marriage is headed toward separation or divorce, most marriage counselors are also experienced in handling these issues. Friendly support and advice can feel like life savers at this time of crisis. It can be a mistake for husband or wife to try to hang on to the marriage because of fear of exiting into a lonely, loveless existence.

These are other tips and guidelines couples can learn from to improve their marriages but I find that these four (4) will serve them well through the years. Finally, it is the most important things I have learned.