1. Keep a positive mind set during the divorce. If you are facing divorce it is likely you will be feeling down and this is normal. You set out to have a marriage that worked and now it is ending. You could be falsely accused and again betrayed. Do you feel sympathy for her? - don't, it will not be a two way street. Say to yourself this is for the best and believe that you will achieve the outcome that you want and look to your own needs and goals. Getting down means that you won't fight for the things that are important for you.
2. Watch the money. Close joint accounts, joint credit cards and any other places you have a financial interest with your spouse. Do this as quickly as you can. You can be certain that her attorney is telling her to get all she can now during this uncertain time. While there was once love and trust now you are vulnerable in this important area. Protect yourself in this most important area.
3. If there is an income gap between you and your wife where her income is significantly less than yours, then you must try to bring the two closer. Find a way to lower your income and raise hers. A good CPA can help with your income. Get a report about your soon to be Ex' skills and their value in the local work force. When you go before the judge and she's a stay at home wife with no other income than you then you are on the wrong end of the automatic formulas for support and asset distribution. These reports are evidence that can help you get things into balance and compel your soon-to-be Ex back into the workforce. You can likely save thousands of dollars.
Don't be like many men who are paying more in alimony and child support than they need to without even knowing it! These poor men are struggling to make their monthly payments while their Ex or soon to be Ex is using the extra money to get "beauty treatments," to buy new clothes, to make payments on the fancy new car they just bought and much more!
