The situation revolved around a woman who has been unfaithful to her husband and has conceived a child out of wedlock. She tries to weigh the best way of breaking the news, and her husband's possible reaction to it. Talking of irregularities in marriage has never been easy, and broaching the subject of divorce can be harder than the divorce itself. How does one go about it? Is there any way to minimise the catastrophic effects on one's partner? What is to be done about the children? These are some of the issues that have been discussed below.

Many couples will testify that hearing of divorce for the first time had been the worst moment in their lives. It is much worse than being told that you have failed in the exam or you are getting fired. This is because the situation is irreversible and there is no second chance to immediately go back to the starting point of the relation. If we fail in school or even at university, we can go back to the beginning of the term and start all over again. Those who go to Oxford or Cambridge know of such hardships only too well. But all said and done, there is still the chance to redeem oneself. But divorce is the end of the greatest venture, with no second chances of turning back the clock. That is why introducing the topic is such a delicate matter and has to be handled with care.

How should you go about it? There can be no averaging or readymade solutions for divorce because we are all individuals with very separate sets of problems. A few methods have been suggested below. Whether they are applicable at all or not will depend on your situation, the cause for the separation, and the nature of your partner.