Breaking up is not easy, and being dumped is always harder. If you have been dumped without any reason, it leaves you clueless. You start asking yourself whether you have failed him in some respect or the other, whether he got bored of you or got himself a new girlfriend!

Guys break up for many reasons but here are some tips to help you get your ex boyfriend back and save your relationship.

Can You Stay Sane? Good.

Do not behave anxiously or give way to desperation when he breaks up with you. This only confirms his decision to move away. Keep your emotions in control and behave nonchalantly. In fact, you could inform him that you were thinking of separating ways with him yourself! Judge the way he reacts to this.

Usually, men want what they can't get, if you play smart, he will end up re-thinking about the break up. In the meantime, think carefully and sort out your own thoughts. Think if you really want him back, if it's really a good thing to get back with him and the possibility of him hurting you again.

Remember that you can win him back by acting smart, and not desperate.

Interact, but smartly. The sanity thing is very important.

Send him a short letter saying that you understand and respect his decision and you think some time apart may be good for you. Keep your emotions in check, be straight to the point, and don't get emotional. Let him know that you are available to talk if he wants to but let him contact you, just put a phone number or email address in the letter and leave it at that.

It would be foolish for you to expect that he will come running to you, or any such immediate results. Do not check you mailbox regularly, realize the amount of free time you have at hand, and use it for pampering yourself. If he calls you sometime, do not receive the call hastily, giving the impression that you have been waiting for his call.

Don't fuss if you think your ex-boyfriend is ignoring you. Allow him the time and space to think. Chances are he broke up with you because he needed some time apart. Leave him alone, because he too will need some time to think things through before he's ready to talk about it.

Enjoy your life.

Do not moan and whine about your past relationship. Many go through this difficult stage of life. Take it in your stride and move on, life has better things to offer. Go out and have fun with your friends instead of staying cooped up at home. This change of your mindset might even affect your ex boyfriend positively, and thus make him reconsider his decision to break up with you!

Men, in general, have a fascination for those very things they can't get- and hence, if he sees you moving on without him, he could come back and beg for a second chance. The ball is in your court now- you have to take the decision! Go out and enjoy life instead of wasting it over someone who is not always worth it.