I ran into an old friend recently who had gone through a divorce and revealed her story of on-going pain and agony. She mentioned that she doesn’t have a good relationship with her ex-husband and he has minimal contact with their three sons. Her energy was very low and revealed such horrific sadness. She then went on to mention that she felt she couldn’t compete with her ex-husband’s income and being able to provide fun vacations for their sons. Her ex-husband apparently does take them skiing once a year.
You know what I told her. All her children want is to know they are loved and she is doing that. The materials things are only temporary—what matters most for the long term is for them to bask in knowing that they were loved. This will sustain them through their entire lives.
She then asked me how I created a great relationship with Rob and I told her we had to work through some anger and then forgiveness. However, this process was very short-lived and then we defined the relationship we wanted as children of God and parents of our daughter.
As she was sharing her story, I listened with deep empathy and realized just how blessed I am in having Rob for an ex-husband. Rob and I recently went out for our respective birthdays and laughed and talked about our lives. What we have is extraordinary and I know it’s not the norm. I called him to let him know about my experience with my friend and told him I appreciated him so much….what he gives to me and to our daughter.
Is this possible for everyone? Yes, it is.
If you are divorced and don’t have a great relationship with your ex or you know someone who is who doesn’t have a great relationship with his or her ex, you can have it by following some simple steps.
When you don’t have great relationships, you hold on to these negative emotions which cause all sorts of problems in the body. Remember, the body doesn’t lie—it always tells the truth—the truth being your connection to God is corroded. If you have any physical symptoms such as being overweight, depression, anxiety, high blood pressure….whatever it is, you can overcome this.
Remember my mission is to help anyone I can achieve vibrant health. God intends for me to help you and I can. Please contact me so we can get started in easy, manageable steps.
You deserve great relationships and first it starts with changing the way you look at things and the things you look at change—thank you Wayne Dyer for planting that seed. This statement has been the catalyst for the growth in my relationships.
