Soul Mate Test: NO is about boundaries and identification.

You have to know who you are if you want to find someone to be perfect for you. Usually each of us has a need to become clear about what we want. This applies to all and everything, from things that are useful to avoiding tricky and unpleasant emotions. The puzzle seems to be to do with how to reach clarity and then to uncover the answers to questions. The 7 Words System offers a down-to-earth insightful system that allows us to get hold of a much better appreciation of what exactly we are looking for. The process kicks off with the word No. At first we need describe accurately what we don't want, what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Soul Mate Test: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

Look around and see what's happening, to you, to others...learn what works for others and think about it carefully. The next phase correlates with the word Hello. We will need to open up to new ideas and people if we have a desire to increase our variety of solutions to questions arising. We surely know that? To get something different we will need to draw out our perspectives and look where we have not formerly looked previously. Original dreams, new people, new places and new things are all parts of giving consideration to something we have not formerly experienced. We will want to switch old for new, that we have something to offer in adequate return for what are trying to obtain for ourselves

Soul Mate Test: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

How well are you expressing your appreciation? Can you find qualities to admire in people you meet; the best qualities are usually deeper, often hidden. Among all of our options, some are more appealing than others and we give them a higher meaning, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. Repeatedly, we forget the meaning of what we have, slide unconsciously into ungratefulness and are likely to presume things will always be the way they have been before. It's more than simply good manners to reveal our appreciation for things we esteem; it has a significant effect in helping us to accomplish our ambitions. Psychologically we are drawn to what we communicate gratefulness for, and yet it's equally valid to say that we are able to attract them to us too. We build up our magnetism when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we easily bring things to come to us.

Soul Mate Test: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

Are you willing to realize that after finding a soul mate life has changed and will be forever different. Are you willing to change? Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and concerns a procedure having four stages. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a possible stage of change, so is seen in simple terms as out-and-out rejection of a workable path of action that previously we had been stepping towards and in future will not engage in. It is a turning point in our choice of would-be outcomes. Goodbye is different from No because it means that we have had some kind of involved interaction already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's refusal to become involved in the first place. Sincere decisions cut the past away totally and that penetrating quality initiates an opening of a doorway that otherwise does not show itself.

Soul Mate Test: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

How do you cooperate to find harmony? You do have a vision of a successful partnership? The future develops according to the lifestyles of the past unless we take control of it and bend it to our desire. To do this compels us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, exact and optimistic—and transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is rather illusory and the second is much more directed and willful. For a dream to become real there must be cooperation. Nothing can be done without securing the aid of others - this takes talent, possibly arguments, even stimulation. It is not always vital to proffer something such as money or money's worth.

Soul Mate Test: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility and feel genuine remorse for your part in any conflicts and tensions that exist? Sorry, the 6th primary word, is best seen as making good harm done whenever we've been uncaring or unmindful to the circumstances of another. The best strategy is to make sure we prevent the need to say it by being understanding earlier. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against us and reduce our odds of achievement of our goals, so it is obviously more prudent to be concerned about others as well as ourselves. This question is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards anyone we've upset and offering reimbursement when we've got it wrong. Then and only then will it ever be feasible to forestall or patch up resentment and let go of the enduring nastiness that otherwise would develop and be a source of bitterness.

Soul Mate Test: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Sometimes unacceptable behaviour just has to be accepted. How tolerant are you? The closing phase of our 7 Words technique is to do with acceptance; there are instances when we simply have to endure what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be perfect wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in actual fact we can't. We always need to tolerate what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The best habit is to place reliance on the fact that everything in the long run turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when considered in the perspective of the longer term. Surely it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! Still hold your fire and you will see that the unanticipated events, the surprises and setbacks are actually the best bits masquerading as hardships.

James Burgess 2008