In a perfect world, the couple would live happily ever after when they say "I do". Unfortunately, we do not live in a perfect world. And usually, when the wedding day is done, trouble starts to happen.
Whatever the reason, all of a sudden it turns from a happy relationship to a cold and bitter relationship.
In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor in San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.
Arguments, disagreements, and fights do happen. It is going to happen in a lot of marriages. But there comes a time when a couple needs to decide if it is normal everyday life. Or if is too much and time to seek help.
Because left unchecked, problems in marriages can lead to ugly divorces.
So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling is needed.
The first sign is there constant bickering? Do little things cause you guys to argue? Allthough seemingly no big deal, this could be the beginning of trouble starting.
Second, does it seem hard to say anything nice about each other? This shows you that you two are holding contempt for each other and that is not beneficial.
A third thing is do you find that your level of respect for each other is not there? In every relationship, the couple must respect each other.
Fourth sign, do you see that intimacy is lost between the two of you? This is not just for sex, although this is part of it. Is it more than that where the feeling of closeness isn't there anymore?
Fifth, are you happier when your spouse is not around? This is not good and a sign of the start of seperation.
Sixth, is there a loss of trust between one another? One of the most important things for a married couple is trust. When you are going to live and share your most intimate moments there has to be trust.
Finally, has there been unfaithfulness between one of you? This seems simple and obvious. Sometimes when this does occur, unfortunately some couples choose to ignore it rather than try to deal with the issues.
Of course there are a bunch of other signs to look for. But these are some big ones when deciding if it is time to seek a marriage counselor.
If you find yourself experiencing these situations, and saving your marriage is what you want. You have to look for professional advice so you can find a way to work out these issues.
Often times, a third viewpoint can help immensely and that is where a family counselor can help.
