Albert Einstein once said that the definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, and when it comes to meeting women online, there are lots of tips and tricks you can use to help you get out of a dating rut and some online dating secrets you can apply in order to get the most of out the online dating experience.

If you aren't getting the results you'd like to get, stop doing the same wrong things over and over again, and take a look at some ideas you may not have considered before.

1) Not every online dating site is for everyone. Make sure that the site you're a member of has women who a) live in your area and b) are the type of women you'd like to date. If your dating site is filled with profiles of women you'd steer clear of in real life, it's time to shop for a new site. And this time, research the site beforehand to make sure the type of women you're targeting are members.

2) Get your head in the game. Go into every step of the online dating process with confidence. Don't let even a suggestion of someone being “out of your league” creep into your thought patterns. Jot down a quick list of all the qualities you have that would make a woman feel privileged to date you. Make copies of the list and keep it where you can pull it out and read it out loud when you start to doubt your self worth. Tape it to your bathroom mirror and read it first thing in the morning. Pretty soon, your thoughts and actions will fall in line with your words.

3) Don't waste time chatting with women from dating sites on instant messenger. Sure, you'll get to know the women better, but the fact that you have time to sit there and chat decreases your value in her eyes. Your only contact with women from online dating sites should via email, which allows you to maintain a sense of mystery, which makes you all the more attractive. Let a woman have the opportunity to miss you-something she can't do if you're always chatting

with her on IM.

4) If a woman persists in trying to get you to chat, turn the tables by telling her you're too busy for IM. Then ask for her phone number so you can call her when you have some time to talk. This gives you the upper hand, as you will decide when you will make contact with her. And women really do love men who can take control.

Above everything else, stay confident. When your confidence is shaken, your whole persona suffers. And when that happens, you might as well take a sabbatical from the online dating game, because the biggest secret of dating, online, or in the real world, is that women place the highest value on men who truly (and without excessive arrogance) value themselves first.