It is easy to understand how it might be uncomfortable to receive a massage from a stranger. Many of us have never sought a professional massage for this very reason, even though we recognize that it would feel good and be very healthy. Many men feel nervous that they will become sexually aroused during a massage intended to be physically therapeutic, and worry about the embarrassment of an unwanted erection. This is why many men prefer to receive their massage from a fellow man, to avoid any wandering thoughts that could tense them up and distract them from alleviating their physical tension.

Gay men often feel similarly uncomfortable receiving a massage from a straight man, but at the same time have trouble feeling physically connected to a female masseuse. The solution for gay men is to find a gay masseur to massage them, but this can be easier said than done. Many massage parlors prefer not to advertise themselves as "gay friendly" for fear of scaring away their straight clients. Meanwhile, potential gay clients are intimidated by the services that are available.

No matter whether you are a straight, gay, or bisexual man, there are some clear benefits to the experience of receiving a massage from another man. For a straight man, there is the experience of non-sexual intimate contact with another man that can help to alleviate feelings of insecurity and to boost self-esteem. Men often feel that they cannot connect intimately with other men because they failed to establish deep, open relationships with their own fathers. The psychological turmoil that remains can last for a lifetime and can interfere with promising and profitable social and business relationships.

For a gay man, there is also an element of being a part of a disenfranchised, even ostracized social group. It can be very difficult to have the types of trusting and open feelings towards others that facilitate muscle relaxation, making for a good and relaxing massage. Knowing that your masseur is also a gay man can help you to feel connected and comfortable enough to enjoy the health benefits of massage and also the psychological benefits of intimate platonic contact.

Every man should experience the comfort and fulfillment of receiving a massage from a trained male masseur. The psychological benefits of comfortable, nonjudgmental intimacy with another man can hardly be overestimated. The physical benefits of massage are well-known, but the body must be ready to receive the massage for maximum benefit. Any situation with is conducive to increased relaxation will also help to increase the physical benefits of the massage, and hormonal and pheromonal compatibility between men who share a similar purpose can also be highly therapeutic.