I'm confident you've found yourself in the same state of frenzy that my clients experience. You are at the point where you know a change is needed but you aren't confident you know what the next step is. I ask my clients to look at how they are feeling about not knowing. It's really okay to not know, you know?

Rejoice when you don't know. Have a party to celebrate the dozens of juicy options you now have in front of you to keep your life fresh. We often react to new situations based on how we've handled similar past scenarios, irrespective of whether our past actions provided our desired results.

If you continue to do what you've always done, you'll continue to get what you've always got.

Here are a few statements that have helped my clients moving forward. "I want something different, but I can't see what that looks like."." "I'd love more stability, but who the heck knows how to get there from here?"." "I want a more loving relationship with my spouse, even though I don't know how to get there just yet."

This is an excellent beginning. When we puzzle over our options, we change our lives around what we desire, not what we had in the past. We open up to new possibilities. Let's explore just one of the above examples.

"I'd love more stability, but who the heck knows how to get there from here?"."

Clients share that balance typically means exercise to them. A typical challenge is this: they used to run or play basketball, but their joints will no longer support these activities so now they are lost.

Somewhere in the depths of their minds we discover a belief that if they don't exercise the way they used to, they're not exercising at all. Stating "I don't know what comes next" relaxes them. They can now contemplate other options without the heaviness of 'having to know.'

Perhaps they decide to take a month or two to decide. Is it yoga? Try different types of yoga until you find the one that is best for your preferences? Could it be an exercise class, some sport, trying out meditation? If you don't see an immediate solution, you are 100% free to look at alternatives to see what might stretch you into a better you, and not remain the old one.

This week, explore assumptions in the depths of your mind. What options open up to you if you simply give yourself permission to 'not know?' Enjoy your discoveries and have a grand week.