Weight loss is not just about following a diet or a fitness program as proven by the many failed diets and fitness programs. First, you need to recognize the many Mental, Emotional, Subconscious, and Spiritual blocks that prevent you from losing weight. These M.E.S.S. blocks are untrue beliefs, thoughts, or fears that inhibit your weight loss. If you do not let go of them, it will be very difficult for you to lose weight and, if you do, it will be easy for you to gain the weight back.

You may think that it is impossible for you to lose weight and be thin if your parents are overweight. This is especially true if your family members have been trying to lose weight without success. Here are some limiting thoughts and beliefs that you may have if you grew up in such a family: No one in my family can lose weight; everyone in my family is supposed to be overweight and so am I; I am supposed to be fat; my family is supposed to be fat; there is nothing I can do, I just cannot lose weight. Losing weight is impossible, so why even try? I always fail when it comes to weight loss. I cannot lose weight. There is absolutely no way I can lose weight; it is hopeless." In addition to these overwhelming negative thoughts and beliefs, if you are the only one eating healthy or dieting in your family, it will be almost impossible for you to succeed unless you have a motivation of steel. You will be tempted 24 hours a day to eat unhealthy foods and deviate from your healthy regimen.

Plus, you may believe that to fit in your overweight family, you also need to be overweight. If your mother, father, sisters, and brothers are fat, ask yourself, do you have any other option than to be fat?

What are the chances you can grow up with a perfect body and still fit in with your overweight family? You will believe that you have to be just like them. It does not matter how many diets you try, you will never be thin or stay thin because a part of you does not want to succeed.

Most of us have a basic human need to fit in and belong. We also want and need to be loved. Even though, consciously, losing weight might be important to you, subconsciously you may not want to lose weight if this means you have to give up fitting in, belonging to, and being loved by your family. Ask yourself. Would you still belong to the family if you are thin? Would you still be loved and accepted if you are the only thin person in your family?