Some men find love without even trying, whereas others travel the world over looking for that one special person who they can truly love. Why do some people find it so easy and others find it impossible to find love?

I think that it all comes down to what your expectations are, some people set impossibly high standards for the one they are looking for, and therefore they will never find them. Others are more realistic and are prepared to accept people for who they are.

You have to be able to see yourself as others see you, once you are able to do this then you will have a more realistic idea of the person who will be compatible to you. If you are short, fat, ugly and poor there is no way that you will win over someone like Elle Macpherson.

Finally if this type of person finds someone who they think is up to the standards that they have set they will then continually look for fault in their chosen person, this is their nature. They look for the faults in a person instead of looking for the good things.

We all know people who think that they are always right and everyone else is wrong, they are difficult to be around even socially, imagine if you had to live with them. If you have the tendency to be like this you will surely find that finding love, a love that will last, will be very difficult.

Friendship is an important ingredient when looking for love, you can love someone, but that love won't last if you don't like them. Your partner in life or your wife has to be someone who you can spend time with, someone whose company you enjoy.

Ask yourself, is your ideal of the perfect man or woman attainable, are your standards too high, is it possible for the person, or the ideal of a person, to exist. Everybody has flaws and idiosyncrasies, accept them, don't try to change them, you will find that you will be a lot happier in the relationship.

Don't believe old sayings, especially the one about opposites attract, perhaps they do but when you are talking about people they may attract but they wont stay together. You should look for someone who is similar to yourself, someone who has the same interests and the same goals in life.

When you are lucky enough to find that one person who compliments you, who you can call your other half, don't let that love die. You have to nurture love, you have to keep it interesting.