Many of us have been in the situation where we are talking daily with a special someone, things are going great, and somewhere at some point in the beginning, we have a moment of panic that things have fizzled out. People just have a way of jumping the gun when it comes to relationships, assuming the worst, and making a mountain out of a molehill, so to speak. When those panic worthy times hit, here are a few tips that should be kept in mind to keep your head on straight.

When you have talked with the guy for a while, either by IM, email, or over the phone, you finally go on your first date with the person. You guys go out and have a great time, maybe make out a little bit, and he takes you home. Of course when you get home, all you can think about is the date, the making out, and the guy. About an hour later, you send him an email or text telling him that you are hoping to see him again. Here is where the problem of jumping the gun comes in. If he answers you at all, it will probably be an answer of utter confusion and hell be on his guard. That is moving way too fast.

Many women notice that the pattern of communication seems to change once people have met in person, and that is often very true; it is usually due to the fact that meeting face to face is so different from just talking on the phone. Everything from how a person looks live in the flesh to their mannerisms to the way they act in public become evident once you meet face to face, and depending on those things and what the other person thinks of them, they will either call you or not afterwards.

It is important not to be pushy after a first date. Letting the other person think about what went on during the date and allowing them time to decide if they liked you enough to see you again is important. Pushing for a second date before the person is ready very often leads to more trouble later if the relationship develops. However, many people feel an incredible urge after a first date to say something to the other person to try to feel them out and get a hint to how they are feeling about it. If you find after a first date that you just have to say something to the other person, dont send a text asking if they would like to see you again. This immediately backs them into a corner and doesnt give them any time to think through what happened during the date. A better text or message would be something along the lines of Thank you for the dinner, I had a great time and leave it at that.

A message simply saying thank you and telling them that you enjoyed yourself tells them that you would be interested in seeing them again without putting premature pressure on them. If they text back that they had a great time and they would like to do it again sometime, thats got to be good enough for the time being; be happy with that and dont push it, or you may end up pushing them away.