Break-ups before holidays are cruel, especially because people become very sentimental around Christmas. Let's not forget that single people, at the end of December, become very depressed. If you are in such a position, to dump your partner, and you can't wait for the passing of this period, at least try some tips:
1. He/She needs to find out first
Do not tell this to friends, so that your lover will find out from them. Try to put yourself in his/her shoes, and think how you would feel finding that he/she wants to break-up with you from friends, because you do not want a confrontation, so be honest and show courage.
2. Face to face
You want a break-up but you do not have the courage to do it face to face, you cannot look into his/her eyes so you think of other means. Do not do it by e-mail, phone or letter. Be brave and do it in a direct way. Don't try to look tough, but do not take into considerations tears and requests. Be firm and tell him/her that you have taken a decision and you do not want to reconsider.
3. No romantic dinner
Do not prepare a romantic and sophisticated dinner to give him/her the news. Avoid taking him/her to movies, theatre or pizza. It is better if you have this discussion at his/her place, especially if he/she is sensitive. Do expose him/her to public view in such a moment.
4. Do not change your mind
If you give him/her false expectations telling him/her, when he/she starts crying, that you will think again about this issue, he/she will have the impression you will get together again. Do not do this. Do not change your mind; tell him/her there is not reconsidering and this is final. If he/she does not understand and insists on getting together again, tell him/her to calm down and accept the situation.
5. Don't be ironical
If he/she starts crying do not take him/her into your arms, do not be ironical or offend him/her. Just tell you are sorry because he/she is hurt, but this is the only solution for both of you. Do not start making reproaches or remind him/her of unpleasant moments.
