Breakups are hard enough to deal with, but a holiday breakup has got to be the worst. As if you don't feel bad enough, now you're going to have to explain to Aunt Winifred and Uncle Charlie why you're by yourself.

Right now, there's probably just one thing on your mind... getting your ex back. If that's the case, keep reading. Here are some tips to help you get through the holidays and back on your feet again.

The first step is to change your focus. You can't spend all your time thinking about your ex or feeling sorry for yourself. No matter how sad or lonely you're feeling right now, it's time to start doing things that will make you feel better.

Think of this as a time to focus on yourself for a change. You've probably had less time to spend with friends than you use to. Now is your chance to reconnect. This doesn't mean going on and on about the breakup. It means going out and having fun. You need to relax, be with people who care about you, and just forget about the past for now.

Have you had the same hairstyle for years? Is your wardrobe a little dated? Could be it's time for a change. Grab some magazines and look for a new cut you like. Go out and try on some of the new styles, and buy something that makes you feel fantastic. Splurge a little - you deserve it!

But don't stop there. Think of something you've always wanted to do. It could be traveling to Germany, or taking tae kwon do classes. Maybe you've wanted to learn how to rock climb. Now's your chance to do something about it.

It's just a matter of believing you can do it and taking that first small step. Call and get more information about the trip you want to take. Find out how you can learn that new sport, instrument or whatever it is you want to do. Sign yourself up and get started - this week!

You'll feel so much better, because you'll be spending your energy on something positive. Once you start moving towards that goal, you'll find yourself waking up a little more excited each morning. You'll feel better about the future - and about yourself. And you'll have something fun to talk about with everyone over Christmas dinner!

So stop feeling sorry for yourself. Focus on something positive - something that's important to you that gets you excited. You'll be happier, which will make you more attractive... to your ex and everyone else.