Why do guys who are simply not funny believe that telling a bad joke as a pick up line is any more effective than the simple one liners of the seventies? If you are not funny, do not use a joke to get a woman interested in you. You come off looking dull and pretentious. Instead, find a little something interesting in your environment and go for insight, which can be humorous, or go for plain and rich all out compliments and old school flirting. Do not go for humor when it just isnt funny.

Humor is a great way to start off a new conversation with a woman. When a woman is engaged in laughter, she cant be simultaneously engaged in being closed off and defensive. The human mind cant hold both together like that. So if you are an actually funny individual, humor might work for you. But make sure youre really funny as well as believing that youre funny. There is a difference between the two and the difference is monumental.

You can use humor in a host of situations that can get women interested in you or at least interested in a little more of that refreshing burst of laughter you just brought into her life. While it is very true that the more intelligent the woman is the more sophisticated the joke has to be (and the harder it is to get smart girls laughing) do not go for long involved jokes that require a mountain of set up. You dont have a lot of time. You dont want to give her the time to start thinking, oh my God, this loser is about to tell me a joke but her cant find the punch line.

Think of humor like a laughter seeking missile. You need to drop it quick and hard and check out the response. Sometimes a woman just doesnt want to give a guy the satisfaction of successfully making her laugh right away. So drop it, watch for some sort of subtle reaction, drop a second one if youre getting a lot of resistance, and then claim that youre all tapped out and so a simple introduction (complete with a compliment) will just have to suffice. If you arent being met with a great deal of encouragement, then move forward and go find another woman with a better sense of humor. If you are striking out all over the place, check with someone who will be really honest with you because it might just be that youre not funny.

There is noting wrong with not being terribly funny. Some guys just arent. So if youre not, own up to it and move on because when youre trying to pretend too hard you are just out there in the world turning people off. Find something that works more to your style and start experiencing success. For those who can use humor, its a great avenue. For those who cant it will simply hold you back.

If you are marginally funny but definitely need a little help in getting things together in the humor department, grab a few joke books and start learning what makes a funny joke. Practice jokes with people you know and who will tell you the truth at first. Then practice telling a few jokes with people you dont know but arent interested in dating. People like the attendant at the gas station or the waiter at lunch could all use a little good humor from their customers and can give you honest immediate feedback. Once you are sure that you are starting to get a higher than average return of smiles, giggles, and guffaws, then take your jokes to the ladies and see what happens. It is not a bad idea to use a rotation of five to seven jokes at a time during your practice stage, that way you really know them and you arent likely to mess them up but you have enough of a selection to pull from.

Jokes can be a great way to introduce yourself to women. If you can deliver them well with a sense of sophistication and a tone of self awareness, women really like funny guys. Funny guys are often the genuine article prize for women these days. Too many men have lost their sense of humor to the work a day world and the pressure of lifes interest. Being the funny guy can be the best card in town, and if youre any good at it, the women will start lining up to be around you instead.