We all know: love is blind. All of us know this on our own - we met somebody, fall in love, start a relationship, but usually we did not find enough time to really know our partner. Many people are strongly convinced they know their partners but in fact it is little what they know about the loved one.
Too many people do not ask ''difficult'' questions about their loved ones and rush into a serious relationship or even marriage.
The divorce rate is higher and higher, and one of the motives is that partners do not know each other well enough. Questions need to be asked and answers must be given.
Here are 4 such questions to understand what your partner thinks about your relationship:
1. How does your loved one see your future together?
This is a crucial question. Many people spend time with partners but do not want marriage. Even if you are in love, the other may have a different opinion about the future. Maybe your loved one does not want marriage, house in the countryside and kids but travelling, dangerous sports and leisure.
2. Does your loved one want kids?
Maybe he/she wants to be with you but does not want as many children as you. This aspect is important and should not be discussed after marriage but before.
3. Where does he/she want to live?
Some people like to live in big crowded cities, they like active life and heavy traffic, others want to live far away from the noise of the city, without internet, TV-set and any other sources of information. So you need to discuss this aspect too because it is very important.
4. How does he/she want the house to be?
This is a crucial question; you need to know his/her religious and spiritual ideas. He/she also must make a point about the education your children will have, especially if you have different religions, how does he/she see the role of man/woman in the marriage.
There are many questions related to the couple but many people avoid them or do not take them into consideration. Of course there will be compromise but be sure both of you accept it. You also need to think of a happy future together, leaving apart little things that can ruin your happiness. Discuss about all issues from the very beginning to avoid disappointment that can appear later.
