For most guys, it's not easy to pick up girls from bars, nightclubs and most especially in coffee shops. But do you know that there are men out there who don't care where they are so long as they could talk and pick up the woman they want? If they want to bring home the hot librarian working in a public library, they can do so any time they wish. How are they doing it? Can you do that, too? Yes, you can, say authors of pick up books. They believe that you can learn the art of approaching women and the art of persuasion.

Below are 3 secrets that have been gathered from pick up books:

1. Appealing men know and believe they are appealing.

If you don't believe you are appealing, who else does? Appealing men need not be good looking. They only have to believe that their looks are enough to get the woman they want. What is important to them is that they believe they are appealing and women likewise believe them. Remember, people have interconnected psych and whatever it is that we would want to communicate to other people through body language is clearly read and understood by those people. We often refer to these feelings as gut feelings. So if you exude confidence and personality, people around you would see and feel it and would regard you as appealing. If you believe you are appealing, it means you are.

2. Appealing men study women psych.

To understand women is to understand their psych. If you know how women tick, they would see you as appealing. Pick up books teach that women respond to men who understand how they feel and knows ahead what they want to receive or how they want to get treated. Women love 'sensitive' men. Sensitive here doesn't mean that you should cry with her when she cries; it means you know that she's in trouble and wants you to be beside her even though she didn't tell you what troubles her or what makes her sad. You read her facial expression, tone of voice and body language to draw a supposition out of those. That's being sensitive means.

3. Appealing men don't talk much.

Women hate a man who chats much. Women want a man who is the silent type and speaks only when there's something good to say. Cultivate this attitude and learn how to restrain yourself from talking especially if it won't do you anything good, like, "You have a huge appetite," or "You seemed to have put on some weight." Let your actions do the speaking for you.