Getting a good education is critically important for your child. What they learn is not nearly as important as the process they go through while learning. In the process, they learn discipline, mental maturity, that improving feels good, that there is always more to learn, that interactions with others has to be done harmoniously. Learning helps your child mature. I'm confident that you can think of lots of other things your child will learn while he's learning. And, the things that he learns does play a role in the work that he will eventually do.

Here are some questions to consider when examining how you and your ex want to support your child as he enters school and progresses through it's levels.

1. Do any of your children have special needs at school?

2. How can each of you support those needs so our child can succeed at school?

3. Have there been notes from the teacher about your child's behavior or performance?

4. If this change is creating a downslide, how can the two of you address it?

5. When there is a problem in his classroom, what behavior does your child display?

6. Do each of you recognize it?

7. Can you discuss it with the other parent and decide how you will solve it?

8. Is your child as willing to do his school work at both parents' homes? Don't make one parent the good one and one the bad one. It's not equitable for your child and it makes him uncomfortable emotionally." Both should share this responsibility.

9. Has your kid's achievement at school changed since you divorced?

10. Did you speak with his other parent so that you are both on the same page?

11. Do your ex and you both agree on the school goals and performance standards for our child/children?

12. Have you told your children that you are both in agreement?

13. Is it obvious to your children that both you and your ex have the same standards for school achievement and that you will follow through on them? Remember, continuity is something children crave.

14. Can you meet your child's other parent at school conferences easily? If you can't, what can you to to make this happen for your child's sake?

Your child's education plays a critical role in his emotional maturing, his successes and the fact that he'll get to feel good about himself. You can make his school years wonderful or unpleasant. Being on the same page with his other parent will go a long way toward helping him succeed. With the above questions answered, you can now proceed to creating ways to use those answers as a strong foundation and make education appear like fun and a rewarding challenge to your child.