That initial excitement and anticipation when you first fall in love is the greatest feeling of all. And one of the things you mourn the most when life gets in the way. What happened to that intense weak-at-the-knees, smiling at every little thing person you used to be? And most importantly, how do you get that response back?

The everyday stresses that we encounter must be dealt with when issues arise. Jobs, kids, errands, meal preparation, car pools all take their toll and many people want to hit the sack and not have one more demand placed on them. Pretty soon sex and relationships begin to wan and feel more like a job.

Low sexual desire is the most common sexual complaint among couples. It affects around 30% of American women, and though the reasons vary, the outcome is the same. Anger, frustration and arguments ensue. Possibly even divorce.

How do you get back that lovin' feelin'? Start to make your mate your top priority. Schedule once a week dates, arrange for a sitter or even have kids sleep-over at a friends. Completely focus on each other. Even staying in for a romantic dinner becomes an option when the kids are out.

Share your interests: sometimes we discuss all the mundane makings of the day and forget our other interests. Take time to really listen to your significant other, everyone needs to know that what they say has merit.

Do small, caring things for each other to let the other know you are thinking of them. Notes in their lunch or phone calls just to check in can leave a smile and a lighter step.

Affection is so important! Especially for women, it creates intimate feelings and a bond. Feeling secure in your relationship is good for your health too. It results in lower blood pressure and depression. Research shows that women cannot seem to take conflict and let it go. When there are bad feelings they are very much alive in you emotionally and that affects your body physically.

Read something erotic to each other, or share fantasies of passionate experiences you would like to act out. It becomes a secret that the two of you can share. The effect can be very arousing when your eyes meet, whether your alone or in the grocery store. It strengthens the bond between you.

Discover ways to have fun again. Spending time in the kitchen concocting meals together and finding inventive ways to use what you're preparing can be a real turn on. Sampling different taste sensations can be extremely sensual. Remember Lady and the Tramp?

Share the household tasks: After an exhausting day at work, the last thing that you want to do is chores. Have your partner assume part of the responsibility by making it fun. Turn on the radio, do some alluring moves. Try to stay positive and tell jokes. Also by the promise of being done with the work sooner you'll be able to give the other your undivided attention.

Research all points to warm interactions between couples having a positive effect on our overall well being. As well as staying together. Trying some of the above tips can bring back the fluttery feeling you thought was lost.