It is also important to mention in this blog safe-sex practices for those in the dating and mating scene. 0ften people take sexual health risks without understanding the consequences of unsafe sex. If your intended lover is unknown for the most part, and you haven't discussed previous dating experience or healthy exams, please for your own safety, discuss these issues with your prospective lover or partner.

While on the massage table last week, my massage therapist relayed a very funny take on her experiences with good and bad lovers. She stated that there have been times that she wanted to just hand the bad lover a rubber doll and say, hey, knock yourself out and have fun, let me know if you miss me! She describes this man as the 'selfish lover' the guy that wouldn't even miss ya if you left the room!

I respect one of my friends ideas very much and she is a savvy woman of the world. She seems to believe that all men have the potential of being the 'Great Lover', its simply a matter of taking the time to care and not just being in it for your own personal pleasure.

Bad Lovers/Her Opinion:

The Less than Good Lover:

This type of man lets you know on the first date that he is the world's gift to women. He usually has a 'Bad Boy' persona and prides himself on it too! Beware of those sweet words and swift moves. If he goes for the gold before he knows what color your eyes are, put on your running shoes girl!

Great sex is about sharing and communication. the NSG lover is more into his own personal pleasure and may put you at risk for contracting STD's. Don't fall prey to this type of manipulation. Negotiation between lovers is an absolute must. If you are not allowed to ask for what you need in the bedroom, you are with the wrong lover.

HEALTHY Sex Practices NOTE:

STDs:

Here's another reality check: sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are incredibly common in the U.S. -- even if your social circle is affluent and educated. The most common STDs are: Chlamydia, genital herpes, genital warts caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), and HIV/AIDS. To reduce risk, use a condom every time you have sex. Ask your partner if he or she has ever had an STD -- even if the question feels awkward. Limit your number of sexual partners. Don't have sex with someone who has sores on his or her genitals. Don't receive oral sex from somebody with a cold sore. Ask your partner to be tested. Try alternate forms of sexual intimacy.

The Lover rated "Good":

A GOOD LOVER:

A GL Man:

The Elusive Great Lover:

Seriously, this man does exist although he is a rare bird indeed. The makings of a Great Lover depends on how healthy he is both mentally and physically himself. This man wants a partner who challenges and supports him towards being a more awake, present and open lover. This man is not into playing games and is ready for the work and play it takes to co-create an extaordinary relationship together. No one night stands for this man.