Listening to speaker with limited eye contact, a deadpan face and few gestures is as exciting as listening to the motor of a vacuum cleaner. But contrast the speaker who makes eye contact with the audience, smiles warmly and gives meaning to the topic through gestures and body language. That is an engaging speaker!
You don't have to be a paid keynote speaker to improve upon your body language! Do you make eye contact with the listener? Do you use your eyes, eyebrows and mouth to express your meaning? Or does your face suggest boredom and disinterest? Do your hands and arms add meaning to your message or do they nervously move about?
Some of us need to learn to enlarge our gestures and facial expression while others of us need to tone them down a bit. Even if your audience is only one other person, try these techniques for enhancing your message:
1. Minimize distracting gestures. Using your hands non-purposefully while talking is one of the biggest problems. If your hands are constantly moving, sit on them to keep still. This strategy is useful for eliminating unwanted movement. Other behaviors that take the listener away from hearing the speaker's words include fiddling with pocket contents (keys, change), pacing, adjusting clothing, wringing hands, etc. All of these can be eliminated with a little effort.
2. Let your body respond naturally to what you are thinking and feeling. Natural body movements are apparent when we care about our subject. But you can bring natural movements into even the most mundane conversations. Raised eyebrows and expressive smiles are just a few sincere expressions.
3. Use your fingers when listing points. Successful speakers use gestures and words together to convey meaningful messages. For example, use two fingers to express two things. Point to a body part when you speak about listening or thinking. Look for other gestures that help to accentuate your message.
4. Use facial expression to express sincerity and a positive attitude. A warm smile, raised eye brows and head nods can help to express sincerity and warmth.
5. Make eye contact when you speak. In order to involve your listeners and let them know you are speaking to them personally and directly, you must look them in the eye. By looking someone in the eye, you convey interest in what he says, honesty and confidence.
Take a few moments to observe others. What body language or gestures do others use in every day speech? Engaging and inspiring speakers are the ones who purposely take advantage of body language to communicate more effectively.
