Bitterness is more often than not a result of arguments, which are difficult to recover from. While allowances and forgiveness are something that people are willing to do, it is very often found very difficult to forget.
Incorrect wording or even the correct words spoken at the incorrect time or in the incorrect way can cause a vast amount of difficulties. The further in which you continue to apologize and say the wrong things in the wrong way, the greater trouble you may find yourself in.
Even if the truth is being said by yourself, if you are saying it in the wrong tone, or with a false facial expression, which may not be intentional, then it could well lead to another needless argument.
One way in which you can stop an argument, is to cease throwing fuel into the fire. It is always better to say nothing if you feel that you are becoming angry. An argument can effortlessly be stopped by simply deciding to not say anything more.
When continuing to argue, you begin to stop listening, which only makes the other person more angry. Walk away if necessary and give up your right to be right.
If arguments are something that you wish to avoid, then before opening your mouth, select your words more carefully and contemplate what the result of your words will be.
Learn to wait before you speak and attempt to find a way in which you can bring tranquility to the situation. If a certain person is angry with you, then attempt to give them a calm answer rather than speaking or shouting in the same tone and volume as they are. Peace will be added to the middle of the argument if you give a gentle answer.
If your feelings are hurt by someone, then it is simple to immediately lash out and hurt them, too. However, it is in actual fact more wise to let it go. It is sometimes a much better idea to ignore an insult.
This of course, is not to say that you should allow people to walk all over you. There will be times in your life when you need to come face to face with someone. When that time comes, find a way of saying exactly what needs to be said without making accusations. Once a person becomes on the defensive, they will seldom listen to anything that you have to say.
Take into consideration the fact that the blame may be partly on you. Sometimes admittance is all that is required. "I'm sorry" is very powerful. When you are prepared to admit that you may be the one that is in the wrong, then this can resolve the situation and result in reconciliation.
Attempt saying "I think I am right, but I could be wrong" the next time that you find yourself in an argument. By saying this you may avoid a malicious argument, and all that you are losing is a little pride.
Ultimately, attempt to stay clear of conversations where no one actually knows what they are talking about and everyone is arguing over nothing at all. I'm sure that we can all think of situations whereby no one is really fully aware of what they are talking about, even though they think that they do.
