I always invite my coaching clients to provide at least one silent retreat for themselves annually to keep refreshed and refocused on what goals they have created for themselves. I take them too. I would love to share my process with you as well as the benefits I accrue so that you can enjoy them for your Self.

First, I plan ahead. What location will heighten my experience? For me, it's the Oregon Coast. My long time readers know that I am fascinated by oceans and coastlines; perhaps my Midwest youth left me yearning for their scents and physical pull. I've written about the magic of the Hawaiian, Mexican, Caribbean and Jersey shores.

The Oregon coast pries a piece of my heart open and makes me feel alive. Time spent in my mother's assisted-living home teaches me it's vital that we devote time to open our hearts in our fast-paced world. Otherwise, it's quite possible to harden it for good.

If an ocean is not at hand, how else can you open your heart? The laughter of children playing in a swimming pool; being in the presence of the love of your life; getting in touch with the beauty of nature that surrounds you each day; seeing the Grand Canyon for the first time. Stimulants are all around you. It's up to you to uncover your own.

Second, I plan the materials that will support this process. I select books, my journal, a side tablet, books on CD, soft clothing, a favorite blanket and pillow. Now I am ready.

From the moment I slide behind the wheel, I love to create an environment rich in the support of just me. No radio, news, DJ humor or loud music. There is time elsewhere in my life for this.

I find it fascinating that on the way to my destination, it's fun to enjoy an intriguing book on CD - something pertaining to my current quest. On the way home, I enjoy utter silence. I have no desire for outside influence in any form.

Because I set up the environment to support me, because I am honoring my mind-expanding values, by the time I arrive at the retreat location, I'm totally relaxed. Traffic or weather challenges have no power over my essence. I am in charge.

Third - Prior to reaching my destination, I've picked up weekend essentials—simple foods, beverages and, of course, flowers to brighten my room. The journey doesn't begin now; it began the moment I left my home.

I can enjoy the balance of the weekend as I prefer. As the day moves along, I can decide if I want to walk on the beach, or if I want to write in my journal, read inspirational writings or bury myself into a book that's called to me.

The side tablet is for anything that consumes my mind yet doesn't belong in my journal—'to do' lists, business musings, etc. I believe it important to have that side tablet for anything that distracts me from enjoying the moments I am creating.

The results speak for themselves: tranquility, keen insights, and a clear focus on what you consider most important. I urge you to schedule a silent retreat in any form, even if it's for an afternoon. There is nothing like it to gain perspective and release anything that does not honor your existence. Inspire yourself. Schedule it today. Let me know how it goes.

Enjoy your discoveries.