Are you wondering why you just can’t seem to live up to your full potential? Do you often wonder what’s behind the fear that continues to hold you back from accomplishing all of your goals. Do you find yourself making negative remarks about other women or even comparing yourself to other women, resulting in you feeling inferior to them. Haven’t you ever wondered what‘s behind all those feelings? Somewhere along the way you lost track of who you were and by measuring yourself to these other women and what they have, it is continuing to harm you rather than help you. It is damaging your self-esteem and your self-confidence. You are looking for an identity and belittling other women is certainly not the way to find one. You may need to visit your past to find your true self. The answer may be there.



As painful as it may be sometimes to revisit bad memories in our pasts, it’s the only way to move forward from it. If you suppress the memories, they will continue to have a negative impact over you causing you to self-sabotage. You may not even know what it is that’s plaguing your mind, but you need to surely find out. Visit your past by sitting quietly and thinking. May be you were teased a lot growing up, or your family didn’t show you a lot of affection. Whatever your situation, it has carried over into the present moment causing stunted growth on your future. Sit and deal with your past now, so you can move on to a fulfilling and satisfying life.

You are not your past; however, you past contributed to parts of who you are today. You can’t change your past, but you can change you. Stop living in the past and wondering if people are judging you for things that happened in your past. No one person is better than the other. We all have skeletons in our closets and have to answer to a higher power and it’s not the next door neighbors, family members, friends, etc.

Do not allow your past to control you. You will control your past by visiting the problems in your past that’s holding you back, then leaving your problems in the past, and moving towards a bright future. You are not your past!

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Monica M. Burns

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