It is one thing to generate attraction in a woman with lines and gimmicks. It is quite another to understand how to be an attractive man. Master this, and you guarantee long-term success with women.
One thing Mike and I cover in massive detail is how to be an attractive man who effortlessly magnetizes women TOWARD you. Today, we want to cover the simplest way that you can improve your chances with women IMMEDIATELY. So, let's get started.
So many guys who come to us for advice with women and dating all say the same things:
"I want to have choice with women"
"I am sick and tired of being alone"
"I can get women, just not the ones I want"
"I feel empty when I don't have a girl with me"
"I am just unhappy, and I figure if I could get a girlfriend, that would fix it"
These are all valid and very common things for a guy who struggles with women to say. However, there is one big thing that most of these guys lack, and that is simply ? they don't know what they want.
I know, you are probably saying (maybe even aloud at the computer screen) ? "I know what I want, I just told you that I want a girlfriend!"
The key to knowing what you want, is to start with yourself. Nothing outside of you is going to complete you! Master this, my friend, and you empower yourself to know what is acceptable and what is unacceptable.
When you cut to the chase with most guys, what they suffer from is a lack of power ? in order to get power, you MUST know what you want. This is the first step.
Let me be honest with you, when I first got involved in learning the very valuable material which exists for meeting women, I really wanted to just be able to go out on any given night, and get laid. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this, and I got to be incredibly good at it.
The problem is, it didn't fix the problem. I still felt a great deal of emptiness, and secretly knew that I wasn't really meeting the potential I knew I had.
It was a "game" for sure, but I was only barely playing it, and nowhere close to the end zone.
What became clear to me was that I really didn't know what I wanted.
I needed to understand both what kind of dating lifestyle I wanted, and then, what kind of woman (or women) I saw participating in this lifestyle with me.
So, right now, ask yourself... what dating lifestyle are you looking for? What do you want out of your relationships with women?
Do I want to get laid tonight?
Do I want the power of choice in meeting women?
Do I want to meet really hot women whenever I want?
Do I want to find a girlfriend that I can settle down with, and fall in love (gasp)?
Do I want to get married?
Do I want ALL OF THESE?
What is it guys? Any of these are viable choices. The one thing that is indisputable, from which there is no escape, is that you have to start with YOU first.
Now that you know what lifestyle you want to build, lets see what kind of woman will fit into this lifestyle. Again, power comes from knowing what you want. So, let's be specific about the kind of woman you see yourself with.
As an exercise, take out a pen and paper and list the aspects that you desire in a woman. Then, write down the aspects that you definitely do NOT desire ? a list of what turns you off.
From this, you now have a much stronger sense of what lifestyle you desire, and then, the kind of women you want to be a part of this lifestyle. This exercise always yields incredible results, as you now have actual information to drive you forward.
You have to know what you want before you can choose who you wish to be with.
As a caveat, it is important that you first be honest with yourself about what you are seeking. It is also important that you be honest with the women you become involved with. Nothing leads to bad karma like masquerading as husband material when all you are looking for is sex.
Be honest with yourself and with others, and you'll get what you want. You can count on that.
Michael Cross
Cutting Edge Image Consulting
What I Really Want
The words we use, the way we use our bodies to show our passion and enthusiasm or the uncomfortable wriggling and writhing as we wrestle with what we yearn for - are all cues to our progress and how we feel we're doing on our chosen path.
In the twenty years (combined) that Jo and I have coached for we seen people striving for tangible goals. For example, someone may say they want to make more money or become the kind of person that can hold down a relationship.
One of the revealing things I hear when people speak to me about their desires is that they often speak with 'ownership.' Sometimes they are quite literally saying 'I want success to be mine'.
But is this really what they want?
In my view, people don't want to own a successful relationship. They want success in relating to another human being.
I've also observed that people don't really want to make more money for monies sake, they want to make money from work which has meaning and purpose and that they find worthwhile and fulfilling.
In my observations people don't want ownership of money, relationships, spirituality, health or anything else. What they - and all of us - want is the feelings of abundance, love, connection and well-being.
When he talks about success in the Endorphin Effect, Dr. William Bloom puts it superbly when he says, 'It needs to be inside the skin, not outside.
If you want to test this try today's exercise, below.
Last week, author of the Power of Now, Echart Tolle's wife, Kim Eng, was in Bristol. She spoke to an audience of around a hundred people. She said that desire is the beginning of suffering - the yearning for wanting something we see as being outside our self.
She went on to say how we are already whole and that when we desire something beyond our self we are subtracting from our self.
I think when you combine Kim's words with today's exercise you can really sense how we already have what we most desire inside us already.
Inside us is a factory for well-being, love, health, connection etc. The only real problem we may have is remembering this.
Today's Exercise
1. Visualise something that you want. See, feel it, smell it.
2. Really get inside the feelings of having what you want. Fall in love with it.
3. Now, if you had a choose, would you want the thing you visualised, but without the feeling, or the feeling without the object.
You'll find more on this in the Endorphin Effect by William Bloom.
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