I have a passion for couple communication and conflict resolution. I believe that conflicts that are resolved in a loving, caring manner build intimacy, trust, and hope in any relationship. We are not typically taught how to resolve problems with another person without arguing to win. My wife, Teresa, and I have been teaching a couples class at our church since the spring of 2008 and we have seen some amazing things happen when the couples do the work presented in the class. Couples are beginning to resolve conflicts in a loving way for the first time and their marriages are increasing in quality and intimacy.



Alongside of my passion to work with couples, I am also having to learn how to blog. Blogging is opposite of working with people. It's usually done alone, in a small office and what I have in my thoughts are not necessarily easily put down on paper...or blog. Needless to say, blogging is very new to me for the help www.bloggers-guide-to-profit.com. I can see why it would be a great advantage in teaching couples, not only in a local church but also worldwide. I have found several things to be true worldwide but the most prevalent one is that couples need to learn how to deal with conflict with one another.

In reflection on this, I did the impossible. I created a blog. It's just a notebook of thoughts, and lessons we talk about in church, but the funny thing is, the more I write on my blog, the more I can separate the thoughts and create something that we all can use in resolving our conflict.

First, I put together a worksheet for my wife and I to answer a set of similar questions. This worksheet helps me not only see her issues, but it really helps me see mine. I can't ignore it even if I wanted to. I have to answer the questions.

After the beginning assessment, or worksheet, I created a plan. A chart that helps us as couples deal with each issue. It's a diagram that shows how we take a direction and how it ends up in another direction. It also helps us see our patterns of behavior and hopefully in time, we can change the patterns to a healthier one.

So even though blogging is new to me, and not a person to person relationship, I can see how blogging can help us learn and help us grow for the help www.feed-reader-links.com. So, come check out my blog. Send me an email. And while you're at it, download the worksheet and chart on resolving conflict. They are both free and there to help.