The one who survives by making the lives of others worthwhile   She's coming apart   Right before my eyes   The one who depends on the services she renders to those who come knocking   She's seeing too clearly what she can't be   What understanding defies   She says      [Chorus]   I need not to need   Or else a love with intuition   Someone who reaches out to my weakness and won't let go   I need not to need   I've always been the tower   But now I feel like I'm the flower   Trying to bloom in snow      She turns out the light anticipating night falling tenderly around her   And watches the dusk   The words won't come   She carries the act so convincingly the fact is sometimes she believes it   That she can be happy the way things are   Be happy with the things she's done   And yet      [Chorus]      Reach out but hold back   Where is safety   Reach out and hold back   Where is the one who can change me   Where is the one   [x2]      [Chorus]      I feel like I'm the flower   Trying to bloom in snow   The danger and the power   The friend and the foe